The Wednesday Wellness threads are meant to encourage users to ask for and provide advice and motivation to improve their lives. It isn't intended as a 'containment thread' and any content which could go here could instead be posted in its own thread. You could post:
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Requests for advice and / or encouragement. On basically any topic and for any scale of problem.
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Updates to let us know how you are doing. This provides valuable feedback on past advice / encouragement and will hopefully make people feel a little more motivated to follow through. If you want to be reminded to post your update, see the post titled 'update reminders', below.
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Advice. This can be in response to a request for advice or just something that you think could be generally useful for many people here.
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Encouragement. Probably best directed at specific users, but if you feel like just encouraging people in general I don't think anyone is going to object. I don't think I really need to say this, but just to be clear; encouragement should have a generally positive tone and not shame people (if people feel that shame might be an effective tool for motivating people, please discuss this so we can form a group consensus on how to use it rather than just trying it).
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First off, congratulations on your achievements! Sounds like you are having a lot of work with very few structure around you. That's the worst for me.
In regard to dating, it sounds like you are taking a very technical approach to this. Nothing wrong with that, but it could help to get more in touch with yourself. I recommend reading the book "Models" by Mark Manson. It gives a primer on how to be comfortable dating as yourself, not as some proxy method you are trying out. I feel like this is the source of real confidence. Going into the whole thing as yourself and giving yourself over to the circumstances. Once you do this and succeed you will appreciate yourself in a deeper way. No need to fake anything or learn the next method. Be who you are and attract someone that likes you just for that.
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