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A hypothesis on why the combination diagnosis of ADHD and autism spectrum disorder can be so devastating to the social and professional life of a gifted mind:
People with autism tend to meltdown or zone out over logical conundrums and paradoxes. As long as there is this one bad piece of logic in the world, which apparently describes reality, we cannot function; we cannot make ourselves turn away from this hole in reality.
People with ADHD tend to shutdown or freak out over emotional conundrums, such as being ordered by an authority to do something they were already spontaneously going to do, or being told to do something now which they’d already planned to do later. Suddenly, a feeling of being stripped of one’s autonomy and agency overwhelms the person with ADHD, causing panic and procrastination.
(I have of course described myself and my own experiences, but the hypothesis is that this might apply to other people.)
This is considered a symptom of a disorder? This sounds so normal, so entirely consistent with my own responses to these situations that I feel like I'm being confronted with something that I didn't know about how most people experience the world. Is the normal response to being ordered by authority to do something you were going to do anyway to not feel anything about the matter, or even to feel validated in your choice? That's absolutely wild to me, I literally cannot imagine having an emotional reaction to that authority other than, "fuck you, now I don't want to, you should have just left me alone". I'm not even kidding when I say that what is apparently the normal response is something that I would have described as Submissive Obsequiousness Disorder or perhaps Nonconfrontational Personality Complex.
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