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Culture War Roundup for the week of June 9, 2025

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I have to say I find it hard to understand why you care so much. Even if she does smell bad (which neither of us can know one way or the other, as we will never see her in person), what's it to you (as you will never experience the bad smell)? If her hygiene practices don't inflict any actual cost upon you, I don't see why it matters one way or the other to you.

Why do you care about what he cares about? So what if somebody has a chat about poor body hygiene of somebody else - what is it to you? Do you often go around snooping on conversations you are not interested in, so you can deliver some petty sermons about the fact, that you do not like their conversations and that they should talk about something else?

I think you might be confused as to the purpose of a discussion board.

It's almost never about the personal impact of the transgression on the transgressor themselves; it's about modeling and justifying the behavior to people for whom it would very much be harmful (i.e. the mass of the hoi polloi).

If the only thing I know about someone is that they refuse to bathe frequently, my opinion of them will be lowered significantly. Among other things, it's tremendously inconsiderate behaviour. It may well be the case that Aella is a genuinely intelligent and perceptive person in spite of being smelly and dirty: I'm just saying that, after reading a substantial chunk of her writing, I haven't seen any evidence that that's the case. I don't understand why so many people are falling over themselves to sing the praises of someone who ultimately just seems like a mid, pretentious sex worker who smells bad.