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That's a very salient point that comes from a perspective I'd not normally think from. Though I think it raises two questions: Why was this knowledge and tradition lost in the first place and what good would come of bringing it back?
Women might be trying their best to lock down a relationship with an attractive man but so long as that man is not looking for life long commitment or is demanding sex before taking things any further then any woman not playing the out-slutting game will simply lose faster than anyone who is, no? And this state of affairs can continue forever so long as there are more women looking for attractive men than there are attractive men. Since the men have the power to gatekeep relationships.
From my perspective a part of the problem is still, as I alluded to before, that women have a choice. They could bend to some form of patriarchy and functionally organize and regulate sex in exchange for commitment, as traditionalist social values functionally did for a time, or at least tried to. Or they could have a sexual revolution against these social values and dictate their own bodies how they please.
Now, women have already made their choice. And I think their choice was made before you saw any widescale acceptance of black pilled nihilism about life and the lack of value placed on work and pushing yourself. Exhibited by many men in the thread you linked. To that end I think the chain of causality that leads to many of our issues, though certainly not all, lies at the feet of women having the power to make that poor choice.
Then he's not relationship material.
That might be true but I'm not sure what that changes.
It changes everything. If he's unavailable for long-term commitment, he's no longer a potential catch for women who want that.
Yet they still try.
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