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Culture War Roundup for the week of June 16, 2025

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You are basing your worldview on random ragebait TikTok videos

Uh, No.

I've basing it on literally years of research on the topic:

I've researched the Low TFR Issue

I've researched the legal and economic side of it. Pointed out how corporations are technically competing with men for women's commitment.

I brought up the "how many marriageable women are actually out there question literally a year ago, then I ran some very rough numbers.

I've pontificated on why intersex relations have degraded over two years ago.

I've even researched the age-gap question.

This includes talking to real people, I can offhand name a dozen people in my circle experiencing the EXACT. SAME. ISSUES.

I beg you to try and give me some data that I haven't seen yet. You came in and assumed off of 3 comments that I've somehow NOT bothered to look into this issue at every level I can?

In fact, I've put in a LOT of effort to try to find the evidence that runs against this point, but in this search I keep finding videos like the ones I posted, which seem to confirm the data, the anecdotes, the personal experience. All of it pointing in the same direction.

Your attempt to dismiss my point out of hand without a single argument has been noted, and my opinion has remained utterly unchanged.

But anyway, that should be an advantage for you. Getting a nice haircut, moisturising regularly and buying a few well fitting fashionable outfits will already set you apart from the crowd.

This is not a problem for me. I am not the one who needs to hear this advice.

I am the one telling you this advice is useless for most men under current conditions and you sound like a Boomer telling someone to sharpen up their resume and give the manager a firm handshake to get hired.