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I remember filling out the Latin mass survey. To note-
The population filling out the survey is not the same population attending the TLM today. The average TLM grew by 40% over the covid freakout. Obviously, these aren't unselected new arrivals- they're covid-skeptics who agree with large parts of the rad trad program. But still, those numbers are super duper outdated.
The rad trad fertility advantage is 100% due to the serious prohibition on birth control(which Shia Islam does not have). I don't know that much about Iranian social norms, they might be very similar to what rad trads have, they might not be. But 1.6 or whatever doesn't seem like an obviously out of bounds estimate for the TFR rad trads would have if we thought birth control was A-OK. It's not hard to find unhappily single people of either gender at the TLM- most of them conventionally eligible for marriage. The stereotype that our women marry at 19 is really only true for very extroverted, fairly bold, girls from very conservative families. For obvious reasons that's a visible demographic but it doesn't reflect the average experience(which is much shyer with everything that implies for one's love life, sends the girls to college and expects them to get at least some of it under their belt before seriously pursuing marriage[yes, really, rad trads are negative on dating during college], etc). Yes this is an example of the clerics telling people what to do and the people obeying(Humanae Vitae will never have anything negative said about it in our circles, ever- despite coming after Vatican II). But twelver shia islam doesn't have an equivalent to Humanae Vitae.
Getting women, especially young unmarried women, to follow dress code rules which are annoying is simply a hard problem to solve. It doesn't shock me that even genuinely pious Muslim women in Tehran wear their veils improperly most of the time because veils are probably a bit annoying and uncomfortable when worn 'correctly', and when everyone else is doing it wrong it clearly isn't that important.
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