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PaperclipPerfector  6d ago (text post)   2719 thread views

Small-Scale Question Sunday for July 6, 2025

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You'd like to find one that doesn't find your interests repugnant, though.

And again, why optimize to compete for the same limited pool of women that every other guy is now optimizing for.

Because there are way more of them, and other guys aren't optimizing for them. The number of guys with shitty profiles is mind blowing. So is the number of girls with shitty profiles, but if they don't set their sights too high someone halfway decent will message them. Guys don't have that luxury.

The simple fact is that there's like a 2:1 guy:girl ratio on the apps.

And the girls are much, MUCH more selective than the guys.

So the pool of women being limited is, inherently, the issue. Some guys will lose, guaranteed. Its not a traditional market where you can achieve mutual gains through trade.

And in a zero sum game, optimizing to try to win just makes it harder on everyone at once.

And it IS a zero sum game. Every guy that pairs off with a woman is making it harder for the remaining guys to get what they want.

So telling guys to optimize their profiles is just increasing the competitive pressure with very minimal change in success odds. Improving YOUR chances makes some other guy's chances decrease, and vice versa. If you both compete as hard as you can, most of the efforts are wasted for no real gain.

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