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Given that it's an anonymous account, I can hardly be sure. But I wager it's far more likely to be true than not. There are a rather significant number of women who have a thing for crooks, and manage to get into prison romances.
Even if this particular tale ends up being a tall one, I feel that the scenario merits discussion as something that could happen.
That bit was a joke. It's a reference to this meme, which I've appended. But I think that in certain contexts, physical/corporal punishment has its merits, and is unfairly maligned.
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I don't think this is about the merits of corporal vs non-corporal punishment. If the tiny number of women who are currently jailed for child endangerment were judicially caned instead, it wouldn't noticeably affect the incentives for a moron like Mrs DaveyJBro.
This is about the merits of informal punishment by a local authority figure (or mob, as you discuss in your pickpocketing post) vs judicial punishment following due process of law. If DaveyJBro had the socially recognised right to take his wife's phone away for irresponsible use, he probably wouldn't need to escalate to beatings.
Almost everyone agrees that informal punishment is necessary to keep children in line. It is constitutive of a "free society" that mature adult citizens in free societies are not subject to informal punishment. The grey area in between is large, but empirically the Venn diagram of people with the practical wisdom to understand why Lenore Skenazy is a mature adult and Mrs DaveyJBro is not and people willing to administer casual beatings over this kind of thing looks like a pair of spectacles.
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I can easily see this being true. It's not unheard of for couples to have separate bank accounts. Presuming she has a career of her own, I think tens of thousands of dollars is an amount that someone can feasibly spend over 2 years.
Some of that is on me. I have an uncontrollable impulse to sneak in jokes, obscure references and memes in even when Serious Posting.
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