The Wednesday Wellness threads are meant to encourage users to ask for and provide advice and motivation to improve their lives. It isn't intended as a 'containment thread' and any content which could go here could instead be posted in its own thread. You could post:
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Requests for advice and / or encouragement. On basically any topic and for any scale of problem.
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Updates to let us know how you are doing. This provides valuable feedback on past advice / encouragement and will hopefully make people feel a little more motivated to follow through. If you want to be reminded to post your update, see the post titled 'update reminders', below.
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Advice. This can be in response to a request for advice or just something that you think could be generally useful for many people here.
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Encouragement. Probably best directed at specific users, but if you feel like just encouraging people in general I don't think anyone is going to object. I don't think I really need to say this, but just to be clear; encouragement should have a generally positive tone and not shame people (if people feel that shame might be an effective tool for motivating people, please discuss this so we can form a group consensus on how to use it rather than just trying it).
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I'm a huge supporter of it in moderation and conjunction with sincere appreciation and encouragement. I thank my kids for everything they do to help out, I let them know what teasing is and how to respond to it. If I'm shaming them for lack of ability, it's only because I know they can.
It's far too critical a tool in building a high-trust family to leave behind. Shouldn't a kid be at least a little ashamed of screaming or slamming the door to wake up a sibling? Wasting food they asked for and had someone prepare? Talking over someone telling a story?
I feel like we deal with way less BS than other parents because we are comfortable having calm corrective conversations with young kids. Maybe that's rose-colored glasses, maybe it'll be the wrong play long term, but right now it feels like a cheat code.
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