yofuckreddit
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yofuckreddit
3d ago
First, condolences/vibes. I hope it's not some awful triggering situation leading to it happening.
I'm also therapy averse, and doubly so for couples therapy, but I'm sure it's worked for someone. I just don't know anyone who's given it a raving review yet.
yofuckreddit
3d ago
If it was Trader Joe's then this was their fault. Fuck the parking spots there.
yofuckreddit
3d ago
OK I'll be the asshole here - When I get my kids out of the car, I make sure to put my hand between the door and someone else's car. Two pieces of steel rubbing together doesn't feel like something we should be doing, on average.
It's another reason why the American obsession with SUVs for parents sucks so bad. The sliding doors on a minivan are far superior for this use case. But no, we have to pay $15-40k more for an equivalently-capable vehicle because mommy needs to be high up on the road AND see the hood, even though she's not very good at parking :(
I am sure you didn't scratch it and I'm taking it too seriously, but I just don't touch other people's cars and I don't like people touching mine.
yofuckreddit
3d ago
What about destination patterns? Did you enjoy any of the random cities a bit more or less than you thought?
Your music point is heard. I incur some non-trivial costs for playlist creation and maintenance, but over the past decade or so I've built up a critical mass of 1-8 hour playlist collateral I can safely just hit "Play" on in shuffle mode and fit the bill. I think it's worth doing so for a couple of your favorite artists and genres to start at least.
yofuckreddit
3d ago
It's so on the nose and makes me feel so good that my default position is that a lot of it is astroturfed bullshit. But:
- I react like that to excellent food when I have it in other countries
- I genuinely think that our food culture is undersung, and pretty much every euro I know who has actually visited here says it's way better than they expected
- Nobody is being brought to the ghetto or the middle of nowhere for these WC games, there's already some good filtering in what they're actually seeing and experiencing
yofuckreddit
18d ago
I've debated between two paths:
First would be taking a software gig with some ideological value behind it. But that's not always clear. Would that be Abel Police to help reduce anarcho-tyranny? Helping the Libertarian party elevate its technology backbone? The former is enabling a semi-automatic police state, the latter is supporting a bunch of buffoons who can't engage in realpolitk, but they're the first things that come to mind. Some folks I know with a similar ideological bent are still in crypto (!) but I'm behind enough on the tech curve there it may be tough.
The second would be returning to social/services labor. I've already seen people mention bartending or bike delivery, and if the latter were possible I'd definitely give it a shot. Even this is fraught though. The community bike mechanics who help serve the poor with transportation also can't help themselves from being leftist freaks at the same time, and serving coffee (another fringe interest) would have the same shit going on.
yofuckreddit
22d ago
I was debating between Backrooms and this, but I do feel like I need to get in the theater for this one.
yofuckreddit
22d ago
I'm surprised that the cybersex numbers are so low, given the model of infidelity as driven by availability.
I'm not at all. I've participated in cybersex and cyber relationships regularly since 2004. They're competing with instantaneous, highly niche porn on one side and genuine human connection on the other.
It doesn't compare favorably in either case. Finding women to talk to as friends on the internet is still as difficult as it was 20 years ago. The closest you can get is a long-distance ex sending you nudes on SnapChat and it's just not really all that great.
yofuckreddit
22d ago
Hope you don't mind me asking:
- The ugly part you can't change - any interested in GLP-1 driven weight loss?
- When it comes to non-romantic relationships, do you have strong value as a friend? Do you get some of the utility you'd recieve from a partner from others?
yofuckreddit
22d ago
Getting caught cheating is the coward's method of initiating a breakup. Especially during teenage years and early 20's.
I wish I had understood this more deeply. It's tempting to forgive "minor" transgressions - a little flirting here, a drunken kiss - for someone you love. If you forgive a 20 year old for that, they're just going to escalate until you get the message!
yofuckreddit
24d ago
I always try to listen to lyrics. They're a major part of songs. Sometimes it makes them worse, most of the time it makes them better.
yofuckreddit
24d ago
... Are you serious? Have you been to any weddings at all for the past 20 years? Or Karaoke?
I'm already aware you live in a different subculture but this is pretty surprising. It would be difficult for me to find a single person who's unaware of it.
yofuckreddit
1mo ago
Absolutely. I try to think of my children reading it in the future and it cheers me up a bit. But primarily a sense of accomplishment.
yofuckreddit
1mo ago
First, Congrats! Hopefully the weirdness is offset by the enjoyment of being seen as important. For what it's worth I'm one of the people that will dig a bit to say "Thank you" when a piece of art or science transcends the mundane. I pretty much never receive a response but I figure people get negative feedback so often on things it's a way to put some positivity out there.
I was unable to meaningfully achieve anything academically. My ascent from a mediocre student to decent mid-level professional guy was a happy surprise. It's still crazy that the company I "co-founded" is still around almost a decade later and making $40m a year from $0.
yofuckreddit
1mo ago
I recently completed a gravel cycling race in Hot Springs, NC. For the uninitiated, the appeal of these sorts of programs is that you have an excuse to grace the middle of nowhere with your presence and wallet. Many of the spots where great gravel routes exist are towns you don't even see from the interstate, but are beautiful and remote.
The distance wasn't anything special, but 7,000 vertical feet in a day is.... non-trivial. This was essentially a climbing race. My performance was abysmal. A number of factors contributed to it - work has killed my training regimen and maybe I'm just not as tough as I thought. But I also lost my electrolyte water bottles just before the race, leading to inordinate cramping, and took a wrong turn that cost me critical minutes. The end result was I lost to competitors I really shouldn't have as a mid-30s male.
It does make me consider the role of races in my personal enjoyment of the hobby. I rented a cabin on the river and brought my family, and in an alternate universe I would be waking up in the morning with a coffee, enjoying the beautiful views at the top of each mountain, having actually delicious food/drink packed on the bike (for those evaluating electrolyte drinks, Neversecond was what the organizers provided, and holy fuck it tasted awful), and face no pressure to break any bones on gnarly descents (at least one racer had to be pulled off a mountain via ambulance). Instead I paid $80 for a water bottle and a timer to come in the bottom half of the pack.
I've visited the areas hit by Helene a couple of times at this point. There's been something indefinably different - traumatized - among the locals that I interact with. Of course not everyone loves cyclists, but oftentimes I'm not dressed as one. I think some of that small town charm that people would expect has dissipated and will take more years to return. The physical scars aren't even healed yet, and you can still see 100 year old oaks tossed to the ground like children's toys in many places. I still love being there, and it is funny that the stereotypical Appalachian mountain man still does exist in spades. You can go talk with him right now over a beer.
@FiveHourMarathon Did you ever end up tackling your 100-miler?
yofuckreddit
1mo ago
From my perspective, actually, pools are deathtraps for young kids and a maintenance nightmare. I want them less as a father. I had a lot of fun at them as an unattached adult, where I can read, tan, and cool off repeatedly.
You bring up historically dark periods in which humans didn't stop having children. I don't even think you have to travel through time.
Right now in Africa the human condition involves suffering on a scale incomprehensible to the average western mind, where family members of Ebola victims lynch the doctors and aid workers trying to stop outbreaks while war and rape cyclically consume every attempt at building civilization.
This is the one of the few places on the planet where people are having more children.
I've never been convinced of many of my friends' reasoning behind not having kids either. Some are honest about their desire to travel and build pools in their backyard, at least.
yofuckreddit
1mo ago
It's the best show ever made IMO, worth going to the end.
Beware that the Blu Ray boxed set is horrible. Impossible to get the disks out. One of the ~20 things I've bought physical media for.
yofuckreddit
1mo ago
Graphics haven't gotten any better, IMO, in something like 8 years. I'd love to get VR resolution running smoothly on some hardware but I think the next gen of devs can't build it anyway.
yofuckreddit
1mo ago
I loved Edinburgh. My night at The Stand was still to this day the most fun I've had a comedy show, all the food we had was decent, and it was just plain beautiful to walk around unguided. I was extremely happy with how friendly people were, despite the fact that I was there to see Taylor Swift (I'd rather not get into it, thanks).
I did feel like quite the fool though - after waking up earlier than everyone else in the UK, I stumbled upon a completely empty Victoria Street (I had done no research). I thought to myself "Wow, this is such a magical space! I love the colors!"
3 Hours later it was revealed as a crappy tourist trap with queues to get into shops selling chinese harry potter swag. But I eventually dragged our party just a block or two away for coffee, and things were nice again.
I stayed in converted apartments deep in old town. I had eyed them almost 8 years ago, amazed at how cool they were for the price. The TS premium was brutal, but I decided to splurge and am glad I did. They've now been taken over by Marriott and are lifeless shells of what they were.
And perhaps this is why I feel some anxiety about traveling and the opportunity cost of "settling down" for years as I hit prime earning age. Cool places die all the time.
yofuckreddit
1mo ago
- 1.5 years before dating, but we were with other people when we met.
- I was instantly entranced, but knew I wanted to marry probably 2 months into dating.
- ^
- Yes. I've had to deal with the consequences of it, but nobody is perfect. I think you should generally really think through what dealing with that "something" is like for the rest of your life.
- There were things I had no way of knowing beforehand (skill at being a mother) that I did not factor into my scoring that I now appreciate.
- I knew enough women as friends and lovers that my gut was pretty well developed, so while I did get lucky I also knew what I had.
yofuckreddit
1mo ago
I'll go against the grain and say I like EDH. But you need to find a group of people who have the exact same tolerance for competition AND who play quickly AND who don't meet enough to develop a mini-meta. It's too tough to find that IMO but when it hits it hits.
yofuckreddit
1mo ago
At one time I had a decent collection of cards with some bomb rares. The bull of them were stolen actually (?) from my house by who I still don't know. The only remaining binder I had left was tucked under a bathroom sink and I don't think the lone foil Zapdos in there would be graded highly.
Played a ton of MTG for a few years but only got started during innistrad. My collection is probably worth $400 at most front to back at this point. I no longer consider it ethical to pay for the game, it seems a shadow of what it was, though I suspect many probably think the same of my introductory era.
yofuckreddit
1mo ago
I will second going for 32gb of RAM. I also do love X1 Carbons, the physical hardware is good, even if Lenovo's software is not.
It's funny you pick on Huntsville, I have a cluster of friends there, and you're right that it's the same as other places. The good news is this was never as suffocating, culturally, as a place like Mobile or (god forbid) Montgomery.
I agree with your thesis completely. But what could be meaningfully regionally different for each city?
If you look at a Tier 1 city, I see better execution on some of these fronts, but that's it. There's a barcade, an escape room, and a go-kart track if you're down to trade money for an experience.
If I wanted to make a mark on a city to make it meaningfully different, I'd really struggle to come up with how. I feel like the only vector you really have is through jobs or maybe hosting a unique regular event. Maybe geography or architecture, but the latter gets more and more expensive to do so in a differentiated way every day....
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