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yofuckreddit
7mo ago
This isn't convincing at all - The trendlines for men and women largely track each other and women commit suicide less than a quarter as often.
yofuckreddit
1yr ago
They don't say it in those words. Instead, they suggest that without the fear of god and the set of rules there's simply no other way to create internal drivers for morality.
It's tough to keep your face straight when someone says the only reason they don't act like a piece of shit is the fear of eternal damnation. The vast majority of Christians aren't like this (IME) but they're out there.
yofuckreddit
4mo ago
But there is at least some evidence that men actually end up richer long term post-divorce.
I can see this long-term. Not having to support the spending habits of a female partner (high-end travel, dining, clothing) is a massive financial advantage. Especially when the male has reaped the rewards of being partnered early in their career where the females has helped managed your household and establish social credibility.
It doesn't detract from the un-fucking-believable, hilariously unfair lopsidedness of the average divorce settlement. I have yet to see one without a shitty, late-game money grab as part of the female playbook. In a golden age of feminist empowerment and advanced degrees, the legal system is configured exclusively to assume 50's housewife scenarios.
yofuckreddit
14d ago
Twitter has some: https://twitter.com/olilondontv/status/1782167337682006209
yofuckreddit
4mo ago
I didn't read the study, but I can assume it's true, and it changes nothing. As pointed out in another comment:
When the Manosphere discussed the phenomenon of ‘divorce rape’, they didn’t just mean the issue of alimony payments, they also meant the ways child support payments are calculated, the way those are enforced, and the way child visitation rights are decided.
This is just the tip of the divorce-industrial complex iceberg.
- The allocation of assets like houses, in which even if both parties contributed evenly to, is held hostage during divorce negotiations, or provided entirely to the female
- The responsibility to maintain or pay taxes for those assets, which is assigned entirely to the male
- The division of retirement accounts, including individually named ones when both parties are high-earning white collar professionals but one person didn't contribute
- The delaying of remarriage (despite long-term cohabitation) to extend alimony payments when they're applied
- The delaying of high school graduation to extend child support payments
- The total disregard of value provided from one spouse to another prior to the divorce when determining alimony (my favorite anecdote - a friend paid for 4 years of his wife's post-grad degree as a full-time student to the tune of $150,000. She sucked her professor's dick at her graduation party, then ground out the extraction of his credit card points before the end of the divorce! Also received massive alimony payments since she delayed actually starting a job with her nice degree)
@Unsaying mentioned:
Then again, I'd expect high-earning men to also have good legal teams and/or hidden assets, so, who can say, really?
I can tell you firsthand that when shopping around for someone to help with a basic, equitable prenup: Family lawyers generally have some combination of either A: Genuine misandry or B: No desire to advocate for a client who's already predisposed to lose.
Sure you can bill the same amount as when you're representing women, but it's a near certainty you'll be left with an unhappy customer. Why bother?
yofuckreddit
4mo ago
So, I'll dodge the techno-king question and express amazement at people saying "Forward!" or that they wouldn't roll things back.
I thought it was a foregone conclusion that the early 00s were a superior time to be alive. Freezing technology at that instant would have been perfectly fine. About the only thing that's made my life demonstrably better since then is Google Maps. Let me count the ways:
- Dating apps were extremely rudimentary and paywalled. Socially they would have become more acceptable but without the ability for people to filter out thousands of decent mates based on a single profile picture over just a few weeks.
- Vehicles would give you a nice single "BONG" when you forgot your seatbelt, instead of turning into a screeching klaxon acting like you'd shut off the coolant flow to a nuclear plant. They were still possible to work on yourself, and forums for shade tree mechanics were arguably at their apex of information-to-cruft ratios.
- Pornography was available, sure, but not enough to permanently alter your sexual tastes or at a high enough resolution on the internet to supplant DVDs.
- Traditional retail wasn't an empty shell for in-store pickup, it was still fun to go out and shop for tangible goods.
yofuckreddit
1yr ago
I'm interested in pushing the boundaries of what I can do in order to give my kid(s) a leg up in the future that may not be typical, strictly legal, or within the overton window of parenting.
The typical parenting strategies I already "get" and have plans for. Read early, go beyond school, foster the development of valuable hobbies and life skills, blah blah blah. My parents did a pretty good job IMO so I'm just really taking their formula and tweaking it.
I'm looking to optimize intelligence, SMV, athletic ability, and independence. Examples of things I'm considering but haven't done much research or fact-finding on:
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Providing HGH at the optimal times to support height and muscle development.
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Figuring out ways to accumulate wealth they can eventually access and avoid taxes.
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Ways to give them maximum freedom of movement/flexible citizenship.
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Ensuring they're guided away from porn/blue-pill sexuality guidance and (ideally) start off with more information on TECHNIQUE than I did. I think they'll figure this out themselves but I'm struggling to figure out how to do it without a profoundly weird conversation.
Put another way, I'm willing to take on risk to maximize long-term benefit for them, at what I think is a higher rate than the baseline parent. Off-the-wall thoughts and criticisms appreciated.
I use a bike trailer to tow my children. I take them to and from a playground, which is around a 30 minute ride in each direction.
It is 90% greenway, with some sleepy 2-lane connector roads. While I am of course an incredible pedal pumping engine capable of incredible feats, I average only around 12 mph.
The bike trailer has a 5-point harness and an aluminum roll cage.
The problem: Putting helmets on my kids looks fucking miserable. Their heads are cast downward, they have nowhere to look around, and the youngest is clearly upset after around 15 minutes in the trailer. The oldest still has an OK time but is far quieter than when we rode together with a secondary saddle. FAQ says deal with it.
Assume you're a typical parent (I.E. your children are the most important thing in your life and you can't imagine causing them harm through negligence) but you also loathe the vapid stupidity of "better safe than sorry" in the face of all rationality, would you consider forgoing the helmet?
"Other Site" discussions:
yofuckreddit
2mo ago
The other replies are exactly what you'd expect.
Absurd to pretend like food and TV isn't sometimes improved with alcohol. Or that the ballmer peak of sociability doesn't exist.
Or that drinking until you're hungover is a requirement? All these supplements, when a pickle, 2 cups of water, and ibuprofen, will completely solve your problem.
yofuckreddit
11mo ago
I'll keep this short and sweet. I'm very tempted to try and hop on the semaglutide train. It seems like folks here have had decent results. I have a few hesitations:
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First, morally, I feel like I should be able to lose weight myself. With enough physical activity (playing soccer etc) I at one point was able to have an incredible body with awful eating habits. I've improved my eating habits dramatically but I know for sure that I still have unhealthy tendencies. I should be eating less and differently. I can cycle an imperial century and it's almost trivial, but actual weight loss has remained elusive.
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Second, I feel like this gold rush will end in tears a la COVID vax. I'm ashamed I hopped on that train so early though I didn't have any side effects and rarely encounter any through medication anyway. What are the chances this all ends up being a huge mistake and I shave 5 years off of my life in exchange for losing a beer belly?
yofuckreddit
1yr ago
Many weeks ago, I asked about content related to food science. I came across a New Yorker article that scratched my itch and kept the inevitable snark and superiority to an acceptable level:
I'm an unabashed Taco Bell/general fast-food fan and love getting some glances under the hood.
I haven't developed in anything so don't have an educated opinion, but what engine would someone use if they were "technically competent"?
As a rule I hate reinventing the wheel - I suspect you and I may be different in that regard. I have approximately 0 interest in building a game engine from scratch or even some common component support like 2-D menus or whatever.
This was an interesting article. I found myself thinking of my wife's cousin. She's:
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Hot - I'd say 8+
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Probably a decent lay. I know she at least does anal and has some serious practice.
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Intelligent and funny. Definitely something that would be an acquired taste but I could enjoy it and think most men with a sense of humor would. (At the risk of too explaining too much, what I mean is she has a very specific and dry way of being these things - of course they're intrinsically valuable to anyone)
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Financially successful
Now of course the bad - she's "crazy" in the sense that I've seen some texts pop off she's sent to men that would kill any relationship in its infancy. She's sent a snapchat saying "I'm going to fuck this guy" at 10pm and by 9am reported that she felt sexually assaulted.
This article presupposes that women who are unsuccessful romantically would benefit from some guidance. A self-help book that understands real physical attractiveness and FDS without the hardcore misandry in associated subreddits.
No fucking way. You could have the perfect self-help book on attracting a great male mate and it wouldn't affect someone's ability in the dating game at all. I have never met a woman who's open to hearing about real strategy. There are simply other concerns that take precedence - the pleasure of lashing out at someone and saying their dick's small, the enjoyment of having multiple male partners, the sublime freedom of movement that being unattached conveys, avoiding the inconvenience and discomfort of raising kids.
yofuckreddit
4mo ago
I am sure there's more to the story and/or my buddy kept walking into proverbial rakes.
To circle back to my original point, he's now on a great upward trajectory 4 years later. Alimony timed out after something like 2 years?
The most baffling part of all of it is that they had no kids. I couldn't see the justification for any of it.
Another victim made the "mistake" of moving out after his wife cheated on him, so she got the house by default.
I'd still maintain that I don't understand how a court can arrive at these judgements, not matter how braindead a man's lawyer is.
yofuckreddit
1yr ago
I'll pivot the conversation here a bit - if you would disagree with using the term "Groomer" what term would you use?
I see your analogy to white supremacy in some respects.
In others I see a transitive property of sorts. The LGBTQ activists may not be pushing these policies to have sex with specifically your child or even the ones they interact with. But they're creating the cultural environment where they are increasing the supply of sexual partners available to them in general. I really doubt that's a conscious decision but it seems as though it could be a subconcious one.
yofuckreddit
1yr ago
Over the past weekend I read an article entitled “Offensive Naming” (Note: There’s a paywall but you get the gist from the preview).
Essentially, the article cites 2 named people. One of which is a totally unremarkable Canadian paleoanthropologist, the other a president of the International Commission on Zoological Nomenclature. The former believes that the system of special naming, which has been around and relied upon for almost 300 years, must be destroyed because of offensive names (including Hitler, Gypsy, the usual suspects).
In a sense, I’ll put my own Cancellation hat on here and say, hypocritically, that Mirjana Roksandic should never have been given tenure, much less the mouthpiece of one of the most respected publications in the world. Here we have an elegant system, that for hundreds of thousands of species on our planet has worked almost perfectly. A couple of trivial edge cases of malpractice cannot be enough to even think about altering such a thing.
I’m a stickler for well-defined systems that effectively cover the vast majority of their use cases. I find myself recalling the hullabaloo over the use of master as a git branch name a couple of years ago, which culminated in every single Application Lifecycle Management software pushing out new defaults for any fresh code repository. As the person who built nearly all our deployment automation around these conventions, I was fucking furious. I reverted the change in our organization and pre-emptively bowed up if any of my employees would complain. Thankfully, none did, probably because they didn’t want to rewrite everything. Nobody’s done a cost analysis of these pushed-down changes, but given software engineer salaries and what I’ve seen personally, it’s in 7-figure territory at the very least.
I’m not sure how cohesive this is, but I think one of the fundamental issues here is how disconnected the people who want changes to systems are from the costs of doing so. Ms. Roksandic doesn’t have to write the software to manage taxonomy or anything else. Doubtless, she’s working in some backwater excel spreadsheet and thinks adding an alias column is as hard as it gets.
I want systems to be discussed and improved upon over time, even if some of those are for silly social reasons, as long as the costs are remotely reasonable. Ideally, these are net-new ones instead of those that have worked well for centuries.
Does anyone in fields that use zoological nomenclature frequently have a comment as to the scale of this sentiment? Is my worry about the toe being in the door of another massively net-negative change to the overall chaos of the world unjustified?
yofuckreddit
4mo ago
I wrapped up the latest season of the Great British Baking Show (/GBBO) this week and had some thoughts. In aggregate, the show isn’t remarkably different this season than others. The same tropes apply – the cohort all likes each other and thinks of themselves as a “family”, there’s an outro detailing post-show hangouts, etc.
After watching all the seasons on Netflix, I’ve become adept at picking up a couple of archetypes that appear each time. A combination of gender, age, and general appearance can get you far in guessing how far someone will make it throughout the show (though adding data from the first episode vastly increases accuracy). There are older folks who are just too tired, too shaky in the hands, too stuck in their ways to compete. The younger bakers that get too emotional or aggressive (in terms of ambition) fall by the wayside.
There was light CW fodder. The new host was a black woman, and a deaf participant required the use of a sign language interpreter during their tenure. We’ve discussed GBBO and the CW before – I have to say that I’m still satisfied that it hasn’t succumbed to the obvious cruft that you can see all the time in most shows. I quite enjoyed the new host, and the disabled competitor was, in fact, competitive.
My preferred method of watching these shows is light binging. I build up a queue before hopping on the train, timing my watching volume and cadence to where I watch ~4 shows per week and get to have the benefits of continuity without monotony. While I’m sure it’s been present in previous seasons, the tonal shift across episodes was obvious and welcome. Light, airy music to introduce the cast. A little bit of drama in the middle episodes. And by the last 3, darker and tenser background audio, the volume lowered to hear the bakers detailing exactly what they’re doing and why. More close-up shots of the delicate piping and frosting for each piece.
Interestingly, the finalists:
I was left with frustration that I haven't developed this skill. I consider myself an above-average cook, but still haven't been able to master the basics of consistency with waffles and biscuits. Learning baking is hard for many reasons, one of which is that what you're producing is so calorie dense and crammed with sugar you can't truly test your work or exercise it multiple times per week.
Anyone here successfully become a great baker? What did it take?
yofuckreddit
8mo ago
I agree that the left has a more simplistic and perhaps even more coherent argument.
Children in public schooling are brought up with the idea that everyone should be able to vote easily. We're hammered with the sins of the past where ballot access was conditional at best and often outright discriminatory.
As I've gotten older, I continually wish that the bar was raised for voting. If you can't muster up $12 and a ride to the DMV in 4 years, you shouldn't be able to vote.
Likewise with illegal immigrants. I wouldn't call a bloc of 25 million potential voters "trivial". This isn't legal in every jurisdiction or context, but getting around it (especially without ID and even with ID) is trivial. I'd still consider that voter fraud lite.
yofuckreddit
1yr ago
SA has been like this forever, though. Sure it seems a bit worse, but if you sort by top for the past year there's plenty of posts saying "At least I don't live in America" or circlejerking about racism.
I think hoping for anti-white discrimination on a state-level scale leading to a collapse is, frankly, too much to hope for. At best SA will decline too slowly for someone to point directly at racism and corruption at being the source of the problem.
yofuckreddit
5mo ago
While the Taliban's K/D ratio was atrocious, they were effective at:
- Incurring massive economic & social costs to America
- Recouping power immediately after the occupation ended
Did we learn any lessons? Survey says no. But I feel like America lost the war in Afghanistan for all intents and purposes.
While reading my past comments (your updoots give me power!) I realized that, many weeks ago, I pretty much just didn't give out a burger recipe requested by @f3zinker.
https://www.themotte.org/post/233/wellness-wednesday-for-december-14-2022/42961?context=8#context
I know that a forum supposedly comprised of high-iq journeypeople probably doesn't give a shit about how to make a great, grilled hamburger. But just in case you do....
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Selecting great ground beef isn't difficult. An 80/20 mix, in my mind, gives you a ton of cook time latitude you won't get with leaner mixes. The only neat trick most people don't know about is that Costco (definitely) and your local grocery store (maybe) grind up all their unsold prime steak once it's something like 3-5 days old. The huge packages of ground meat at the former are too much for all but the largest burger parties, but you can freeze a chunk once and they'll still be good later. I personally make 1/2lb patties. This ends up being a little bit less than what an average man wants to eat and a bit more than women want (but they normally eat anyway).
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The most critical part of a burger is building a great patty. A lot of boomers and idiot millennials just sort of squeeze meat into a flattened softball and think they're making burgers. Your patties should be formed quickly. Hold your hands together like you're cupping them, but instead push your upper palm out as far as it will go and extend your fingers. Rotate the patty with your hands by alternating the direction your fingers are pointing (I.E. your right hand will start with fingers pointing towards you, then away, then towards you....) As you rotate, use your thumbs to press the edges of the patty back inwards and keep it un-cracked. The final result should be a concave disc that is 20% larger than your target bun.
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A way to minimize cleanup is use butcher or baking paper on top of a cookie sheet for the raw patties. Later, you'll discard the paper but use the sheet to store various grilled toppings, buns, and the resting patties right before assembly. Place them on the paper after forming to season.
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A lot of people think salt and pepper is sufficient. I believe this is true for when creating smashburgers or other fried/thin-patty style burgers. For something you're grilling, I think using Adobo Seasoning is a great move, or Montreal Steak. Basically, a little bit of garlic really ties the room together. I don't blend seasoning into the beef, I just press it onto the surface. The aforementioned baking paper does a great job of slightly drying the meat for great cross-hatching and ensuring the seasoning sticks.
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Let's talk buns. First of all, fuck sweet burger buns. It's not even worth talking about. Potato rolls are all the rage. The problem with soft breads like this is they can't stand up to toppings or drippings. You can help with some toasting or judicious application of a fat-based sauce but it's a losing battle. For my money, I find Publix's French hamburger buns to be the absolute cream of the crop. If you don't live in the southeast, a kaiser roll provides excellent structure while taking a back seat to the rest of the show. I wouldn't, however, say no to something like a thick slice of sourdough. If you're only cooking 4 burgers and are attentive at the grill, you can toast on the grill itself. Otherwise, using a toaster or oven is not admitting failure. Personally, I don't think buttering and griddling is even close to worth the effort for a grilled burger.
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Cooking. I wish I had great advice for this, but if you're using a fatty blend you really need to just watch and practice. I like medium to medium well patties. With a screaming charcoal grill, the surface color of your patties is a great indicator of how they are. If they look good they're probably done.
As I mentioned in the original comment, I largely gravitate toward two burger models. The more interesting of the two is one that I picked up from an old boss in IT - I helped him develop a variant for his restaurant and write his menu.
It involves a chipotle sauce made of Sour Cream, lime juice or apple cider vinegar, at least one pepper and the adobo sauce from canned chipotles, cumin, black pepper, pickled jalapenos (a dash of juice, and a couple peppers). I never measure and mix to taste. As you may be able to tell, I'm a bit of an acid freak. If you're not, mix in some mayo to split base duties with the SC/Yogurt.
Another critical component is a grilled poblano or anaheim pepper. After knocking down my charcoal chimney and putting on the upper grate, I instantly put on peppers. They take much longer to cook than the beef. Just grill them whole, and don't be afraid to burn them. They're incredibly easy to skin once they're roasted. Give each burger a whole half of a poblano that will hang off the patty on one side, don't chop into a relish or anything crazy.
It also involves Pico, avocado, and pepperjack.
The final order is:
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Heel
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Pico de Gallo
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Avacado
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Patty
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Pepperjack
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Grilled pepper
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Chipotle
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Crown
Cut in half and serve.
yofuckreddit
2mo ago
I think drinking 2-3 times a week is absolutely worth the cost, from all the articles I've read.
I make the same decision about Philly Cheesesteaks and fast food.
If you're maximizing longevity of life over quality, that's a valid decision, but I've never been interested in that.
yofuckreddit
5mo ago
Ehh capitalizing it over the course of a 20 year conflict is a bit of a slight of hand. I didn't want to pay $300/year || $6,000 in taxes to pay for Iraq and Afghanistan. You've also got 6,000 Americans killed (ARV of $7.5m apiece) which isn't factored into those costs, much less the QALY's of the wounded.
Even if you exclude casualty values, ~$45k per enemy combatant is expensive, and this is assuming no value for the civilians we killed.
This was one of the most expensive mistakes in US history by almost any metric. It's annoying that it was so obvious for so long, and the only person with the balls to actually stop the madness was Joe fucking Biden.
Man, I have to respond to this. Are we really going to pretend like Bud and Miller aren't easy-drinking beers? Valuable after mowing the lawn on a hot day?
I love getting punched in the mouth with an IPA, and have trained my palate to do so repeatedly. Saying that fresh light beer tastes like urine or is "low quality" is bullshit. It's unbitter to the point of almost being sweet, doesn't sit heavily in the stomach, and is the result of millions of man-hours through development and production to ensure a consistent product at an unbelievable scale.
These beers are successful because of marketing, yes. But that success is also because they appeal to a wide range of people with varying tastes. They have been specifically designed to be taste good to the majority of the planet.
I had quite the throwback culture war experience this past weekend. While at a family gathering, my dad was cornered by an in-law and quizzed about my “agnosticism”.
He was asked if he had led me to this lack of faith, and was then informed that it’s the patriarch’s responsibility to “get his family into heaven” – a neat little double-duty insult of both himself and me.
I tend to be a very laid-back guy in meatspace, but found myself livid. I’ve been in this family for close to a decade, and the sheer cowardice and arrogance of this exchange was breathtaking. To circle around to one of my direct family members instead of having the cajones to challenge me directly was ridiculous (and in hindsight, what I should have really expected from these people).
We’ve been existing in what I thought was a reasonable detente. As a victorious participant in the Atheism culture war, I’ve been kinda-sorta prepared to have these skirmishes with my wife’s catholic family for a long time. The unspoken agreement was that I go to church for holidays, let you splash water on my children, and don’t bring up anyone’s hypocrisy/the church’s corruption, rampant pedophilia/the inherent idiocy in believing in god.
In exchange, I get to stay balls deep in my excellent wife and should be left alone.
I’ll be the first to admit the excesses of Atheism’s victory laps and see how “live and let live” can slide down the slope into a children’s drag show. But this indirect exchange reminded me that when the culture war pendulum swings back, I should be prepared for the petty tyrants and fools on the religious right to reassert themselves. We’re already starting to see the tendrils of this, even if some of their forces have been replaced with rainbow-skinsuit churches across the US.
For Christian motteziens - No disrespect intended. I'm aware of the hypocrisy of my arrogance in this post, and it's intended to be somewhat tongue-in-cheek
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