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Wellness Wednesday for July 16, 2025

The Wednesday Wellness threads are meant to encourage users to ask for and provide advice and motivation to improve their lives. It isn't intended as a 'containment thread' and any content which could go here could instead be posted in its own thread. You could post:

  • Requests for advice and / or encouragement. On basically any topic and for any scale of problem.

  • Updates to let us know how you are doing. This provides valuable feedback on past advice / encouragement and will hopefully make people feel a little more motivated to follow through. If you want to be reminded to post your update, see the post titled 'update reminders', below.

  • Advice. This can be in response to a request for advice or just something that you think could be generally useful for many people here.

  • Encouragement. Probably best directed at specific users, but if you feel like just encouraging people in general I don't think anyone is going to object. I don't think I really need to say this, but just to be clear; encouragement should have a generally positive tone and not shame people (if people feel that shame might be an effective tool for motivating people, please discuss this so we can form a group consensus on how to use it rather than just trying it).

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IMHO you should invest more energy of your process into the mindset.

Probably a good idea and something I should work on.

Why are you dieting in the first place?

To see if it's still relatively easy for me to lose weight. To see where I lose that weight from. To see if it positively effects some health numbers. To make distance running easier.

It seems you are training towards a marathon whilst also lifting?

Yes. For much of my 20s, I was strictly endurance training with no lifting, and I'm not going back to that.

better sleep quality (unless you are deep into a cut and go to bed hungry)

I'm not deep into a cut and going to bed hungry, but sleep quality has gotten worse.

performance in calisthenics - pullups just feel amazing for me in a diet

Bodyweight/calisthenics exercises have certainly gotten easier.

enjoyment of food

Unchanged.

looks when naked (at least after this first 'flatness' hump)

Not to be too vain, but I looked pretty awesome at 215. I'm far more defined now, but feel too skinny (although I recognize I'm not, and I'm still too heavy for comfortably completing a marathon or longer race).

hey thanks for the answer, im not too active here atm. It seems to me you are balancing multiple goals and identities with your fitness regiment:

  • lifting for looks (hypertrophy, bodyfat)
  • lifting numbers --> charitably: "powerbuilding" approach
  • your identity as a capable distance runner aka ye golden times of your 20ies

it is very hard to balance all these goals simultaneously. I had similar issues of balancing different goals (BJJ instead of running). To me, most helpful has been the insight, that due to the memory effect, you are free to regain most of your old gains quickly if you train accordingly. This allows you to prioritize one goal over others with a "good concience" in the mid term. For example: once I let go of some "must-have" lifts and rep ranges (hello bench press 3-6 reps) and embraced hypertrophy training fully, my looks really improved while aches injuries went down