The Wednesday Wellness threads are meant to encourage users to ask for and provide advice and motivation to improve their lives. It isn't intended as a 'containment thread' and any content which could go here could instead be posted in its own thread. You could post:
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Requests for advice and / or encouragement. On basically any topic and for any scale of problem.
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Updates to let us know how you are doing. This provides valuable feedback on past advice / encouragement and will hopefully make people feel a little more motivated to follow through. If you want to be reminded to post your update, see the post titled 'update reminders', below.
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Advice. This can be in response to a request for advice or just something that you think could be generally useful for many people here.
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Encouragement. Probably best directed at specific users, but if you feel like just encouraging people in general I don't think anyone is going to object. I don't think I really need to say this, but just to be clear; encouragement should have a generally positive tone and not shame people (if people feel that shame might be an effective tool for motivating people, please discuss this so we can form a group consensus on how to use it rather than just trying it).
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I didn't say you were a horrible person, because I never thought you were a horrible person. Naive, stubborn, sensitive, defensive, pussy-whipped, yes, but the former four traits could be a temporary status as the result of the last and not a permanent fixture of your personality.
It's entirely possible she was at the hospital today recovering from aborting your fetus, but <Old Joe from Breaking Bad Voice>: How do you know the photo was from today? How do you know the hospital photo was from an abortion? Did you see a photo of her holding her medical records with the contents readable? Even if she was in the hospital for an abortion today, how do you know the fetus was yours? If you sent her money for the abortion or "abortion," how do you know you were the only John to do so?
Chicks in both poor and rich countries alike will reuse old photos (or videos) to invent excuses, create alibis, or provide "corroborating" evidence for themselves. This only increases for women of dubious backgrounds abroad and can include hospital photos, of which foreign chicks can have aplenty, as in many countries people use hospitals for general practice services (not only the ER/urgent/specialized care say, Americans, might associate with hospital visits).
As an example, a classic variant of the old photos scam is young women planning dates with Western (or even local) men and when the time comes, sending photos of her herself all dolled up, saying she's ready but just needs him to send money for cab fare. Where once the money is received, she'll then block him or make some excuse to flake/temporarily ghost in an attempt to keep the gravy train going. This scam can naturally be pulled with multiple men simultaneously. Albeit it's somewhat tougher for chicks to pull nowadays since genre-savvy men will say they'll just send an Uber via their credit card, but the counter-defense chicks have developed is to say they don't trust Ubers or rideshares for this or that security or some other reasons, and need cash to use a trusted personal driver.
You might know more about your personal life than random people on the internet, but you may not know more about hers than random people on the internet. You may know less due to unwise inferences; this being your personal life and you being smitten with her is likely clouding your judgement. Hence the recommendation that people shouldn't represent themselves in court: "he who represents himself has a fool for a client."
Hmm yeah, that was the biggest mistake with regard to creampie-ing and developing one-itis for a single-mother prostitute: posting about it and your e-acquaintances not being overly reassuring as to her Wonderfulness.
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