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PaperclipPerfector  11mo ago (text post)   3705 thread views

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Minority? Maybe? Extreme? Don't think so. There are a lot of women who reject the concept of traditional family and gender roles, and it's not considered "extreme" at all, it's "feminist" and "empowering". I mean, a woman thinking like that would not be considered crazy and would not be socially shunned in any but the most narrow circles. Not everybody would agree with her, but in no way that would make her a social pariah.

Once this is rejected, the position of preferring hot and exciting, even if short-term, partnerships to a long-term investment with a lukewarm partner at best, from which the women does not derive any pleasure - seems only obvious. It's like if I asked you, do you want to get excellent tasty meal every day for free, or a pile of gooey tasteless slop for which you must work for hours, what would you choose? Eventually, an abundance of fancy food may lead to some health problems if you're not careful, but while you're young and healthy, is it even a choice really?

Once this is rejected, the position of preferring hot and exciting, even if short-term, partnerships to a long-term investment with a lukewarm partner at best, from which the women does not derive any pleasure - seems only obvious.

Well, some fraction of men also would make this choice, and many do. It’s just that fewer have the opportunity.

And really, it feels like the hypothetical is missing the middle ground: the options aren’t “temporary fleshlight” or “permanent sex slave.” That’s already an extreme catastrophization of the options, done presumably for dramatic effect, but also demonstrates a wildly unhealthy view of what relationships with men are like.

The thing that’s missing isn’t women’s desire to be a tradwife, or even traditional family roles. What’s missing from this minority of women is the idea that pair-bonding with men is even possible at all. Most women still love a man, even if they don’t love you or me, personally. The only thing to do with attention-seekers like the X poster is to laugh at their inanity.

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