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Highly recommend you checkout the blueprint decoded by RSD Tyler aka Owen Cook, he has an understanding of this dynamic that is much better than any I've seen so far.
PUAs are not the same as those on Tinder. Most pickup artists, people who teach it, are trash, the good ones are really good.
The pickup artist short circuits all of the Evo psy stuff by being less cowardly and showcasing the ability to lead men and attract women, these two are very strong forms of status that you cannot fake.
Human verbal communication is very shallow, full of noise, women subconsciously pickup on subcommunication or subcomms. They were at one point in the 90s given routines so that they could feel confident delivering lines, it was never the lines that did it, there's no such thing as a pickup line. Women were attracted to the self perception they saw which I can firmly state is extraordinarily difficult to fake. Something not tied to looks, actual status or money.
Female attraction is 100 percent status based. Highly recommended everyone who sucks with women to pick up the book of yareally and get better at banging girls they meet the night of.
As for women hating men who fuck them over, it's not true at all since anyone here who's met enough can confirm that chicks dog jerks, they don't have just one ex who they thought were a prick, they have a few of them.
The real redpill is that there are no good girls, none left today at least and virgins can cheat whilst club hoes can remain loyal depending on your level of game or your status (your self perception being colored by it I mean). The best we can do is bang as many as we can and always have women on the side.
"Frame" or "Presence" is probably the best way to put it.
Physical appearance (being tall and large, that is, muscular) helps a lot. Voice being deep helps. Eye contact. And good fashion sense.
But beyond that, it comes down to being so self assured and unbothered by anything that this particular conversation with a woman is just not a big deal to you, and you're clearly going to go off and do something fun and awesome as soon as you leave it, and she can tag along if she plays her cards right, but if not, its not like you care much.
Its not enough to act like a king. You must be the king.
As you say, the lines themselves don't matter. If you can capture the attention by just being present, and command her attraction by exuding confidence, its easy.
Precisely. My grandfather met Robert Kennedy when he visited Jaipur as he was a part of the royal staff. In all his life, he'd never seen a man with a presence like his, when Kennedy was riding the elephant, you could tell he was like an emperor.
Can't fake that, good PUAs are the real deal for this reason. You can't read your way out of being unattractive.
Tyler's product the blueprint decoded was presented as a short ebook, hacked from the lectures that were gonna be in the package, the book begins with the line "do you think you can change?". Frame is 100 percent real. Very astute observations on your part btw!
Hard earned insights that were A/B tested for quite a while.
I've done a lot of lifting over the past year and a half and I'm already 6 foot 2. I won't say that I can capture any given woman's attention at will, by any means, but if I can get that initial attention its funny how positive the interactions are regardless of whether I'm being a dick or just being friendly. Its like the words don't matter in the slightest.
Learning how to flip between a general aloofness and then a more intense, undressing-with-your-eyes energy was also key.
It's quite easy, accepting you suck and taking the requisite help solves this.
PUAs solved women completely, I'm better looking than my friends, it gives me more positive reactions, though I'd have gotten the same had I been short and ugly.
You're not a wimp which is a good thing, many men workout, are rich, yet they remind me of the phrase "look like Tarzan, fight like Jane".
Good point there about aloofness and being playful. Quite a bit that happens during human mating the day we see in modern environments makes sense for small pockets but they seem bizzare when you look at it in its entirety. I can't justify why push pull works beyond that women want to play.
Your interactions work because you have put in the work and have past reference points that are positive, it's a positive feedback loop. You can be a campy homo looking guy like that British comedian who does boomercon shit now, and still get girls attracted because you're genuine. You only get there by a b testing things a lot.
I've been lifting for a few months, though I am not eating and sleeping enough, definitely not recommended. I think I'll look better once I can bench 2 plates.
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