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She was over-reacting, but it's not graven in stone that the man handles all the money. Plenty of traditional households had the women doing the budgeting and the man kept an allowance out of his paypacket.
It's a very important question, because if you don't have an agreement on that before you get together, there are all kinds of nasty surprises lying in store. Using the example of a family member of mine, they didn't have a pre-marriage course/church wedding. Husband handled all the finances. Except he didn't, and wife only found out when the tax demands etc. started coming hot and heavy. The kids' college funds had to be used to pay off all the debts and taxes and rent etc. he was supposedly paying, except he wasn't. And she never questioned him or tried finding out for herself how much money was coming in and were the bills being paid, because he used to get very huffy and upset about that. So by doing things like taking the kids' college funds and help from family, they got out of the hole.
And then a few years down the line, he did it again.
That's a marriage that needed someone to go "so who will be handling the finances?" before ever they got hitched, and if there was no agreement about "we'll share all information, there won't be secrecy, if I ask you did the rent get paid I am not nagging and belittling you", then no marriage.
Trad Girl needs to have that talk with her fiancé about "so do I run the household budget, do you, do we both? joint account, separate accounts? savings? names on deeds or other property ownership?" That's not "corruption of her modern mind instead of the traditional values she claims to hold", that's plain horse sense.
EDIT: Also Catholicism, even traditional (I'm not sure about capital T "Traditional") Catholicism isn't the same about headship and the wife must submit to the husband as (Evangelical) Protestantism. There's a more complementarian view where the wife rules in the domestic sphere and has more authority, in some areas, than the husband. So jokes about choke holds and managing new brides don't quite ring true. Managing the husband is more the reality 😁
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