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Thank you for the thoughtful and actionable feedback, you've given me a lot of useful pointers to think about and implement.
Recently my girlfriend and I took an online BDSM test and it told me that I was only 32% on the sadistic scale while my girlfriend was 76% on the masochism scale. There's a disconnect in that I'm very uncomfortable with inflicting pain on others, even though my girlfriend is actively inviting me to hurt her. I would feel a similar discomfort about someone who does not like my writing yet actively continues to subject themselves to it. I don't want to want to continue hurting you Dean. If Trump criticism upsets you and you dislike my writing so much, you might experience an increase in your quality of life with some blocking tools or word filters. All the best my friend. I love you.
No, you don't, but the pettiness is not beneath you. Hence why you being called out.
Hopefully this can help both of us: can you point me to any Trump criticism that you respect and explain what about it I should emulate? This sounds like a win/win for both of us because the worst case scenario is the status quo. Best case scenario is that I adopt the worthy parts and my writing becomes less painful for you to encounter. Of course, if you can't point to any Trump criticism that you respect, that would be an interesting answer on its own...
Can I? Sure. Will I? A waste of time when you are involved, given your pattern of conduct which has been noted repeatedly over the years even if you have also repeatedly denied the feedback. Improving your character to have fewer petty swipes at your other posters would be a start.
I know this isn't the first time you respond with this line, but nevertheless it continues to be an amazing and revealing response. You keep claiming that I'm ignoring/denying feedback, but man oh man it would be so much easier for both of us if you just actually respond with this fictitious feedback I'm apparently ignoring instead of wasting your time thinking up increasingly creative ways of dodging the question. See you on the next rotation buddy <3
I reject the request because you continue to act in bad faith and lie about other people's positions and past engagements for the sake of your current arguments.
You and I both know that you saved the very post where I detailed when I first wrote you off on grounds of character, because you have repeatedly linked to it since the migration while bemoaning that you have never been given feedback. You and I also both know that the same post was preceeded in the same post thread by object-level feedback of argument noting specific cases in context that you were doing what you were accused of. We both know you have been previously reminded of this, just as we both know that you will, in the future, claim that you have never been responded to and that claims of previous feedback that you yourself have linked to was fictitious.
Try not to conduct any more miscarriages of justice until then.
I can respond with nuh-uh and then you can respond with yeah-uh and I can respond with nuh-uh again or....you can just answer the question. The amount of effort you continue to put into evading this very very very simple question makes me conclude you're being deliberately obtuse to obfuscate the fact that you lack evidence for your assertions.
The question has been answered for years. You used to post the link quite regularly to where I did, until it was pointed out you were skipping the parts that pointed out examples that drove the conclusion.
The effort is entirely commensurate with my assessment of your good faith and character, which you have only lived up to in the years since.
I think you're referring to this thread from November, which reminded me that I already addressed the concerns you outlined. I'm assuming you missed it but I'm glad we can finally clear up our misunderstanding.
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I bet that they post something of 50 Stalin variety complaining about Trump not being Trumpish enough.
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