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PaperclipPerfector  7d ago (text post)   2679 thread views

Small-Scale Question Sunday for September 21, 2025

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I see some people decrying dating apps and saying that you should go meet women in real life.

I'm sympathetic to this argument, because I was far more popular with everyone, including women, in high school, and then absolutely nothing after that. But where would those meeting places be? I'm probably eventually going to get a new job in a new city, and I'll need something to meet people at, but I can't think of anything that would provide an environment like high school, where you could meet a ton of people and let your charm, wit, athletic interest, and good grades be on full display to dozens of people. So, where?

Tennis club. One that balances play time and social time. Lots of opportunities.

There's social time in a tennis club? I took a badminton class in college and there was hardly any talking between anyone, though the games were fun.

Not in the US, so can’t speak to your local experience. But yes, lots of tennis clubs in Europe have social calendars as long as tennis calendars.

(Edit: badminton, squash etc. work too. There’s something about the body movement involved in racket sports that is (a) inclusive - I’ve played against 90-year-olds, (b) not to excessive - so you can chat over a beer or coffee afterwards without being sweaty as hell and (c) a lil bit sexy.)

I really wanted to try tennis, too. I'm already in love with the idea, I'll get started as soon as I move out. Thank you!

Re sweaty as hell, I’m probably wrong about squash - that can work up a heart rate. Good luck with it - it’s an amazing game. (If you’re also a cerebral type, David Foster Wallace’s essays on tennis are well worth seeking out…)

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