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Small-Scale Question Sunday for September 21, 2025

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I see some people decrying dating apps and saying that you should go meet women in real life.

I'm sympathetic to this argument, because I was far more popular with everyone, including women, in high school, and then absolutely nothing after that. But where would those meeting places be? I'm probably eventually going to get a new job in a new city, and I'll need something to meet people at, but I can't think of anything that would provide an environment like high school, where you could meet a ton of people and let your charm, wit, athletic interest, and good grades be on full display to dozens of people. So, where?

I went to a yoga studio for a number of years. Insufferable amount of woo, but worth it for the serious workouts the advanced classes provided. Depending on the studio, they can have plenty of opportunity for chatting with other people before/after classes. If you're already following rules 1 and 2, you'll probably have women approaching you, and it's easy to strike up conversations with the bros since you're the beleaguered minority there.

It's probably a good suggestion, but I find myself quite repulsed by the idea of entering a yoga class. Wouldn't the woman most likely be a vegan or Buddhist or some other kind of weirdo? I dunno about that.

Wouldn't the woman most likely be a vegan or Buddhist or some other kind of weirdo?

This will vary by location, but in my experience the majority of white women with college degrees do yoga and/or pilates. The classes they go to also by and large don't do the hippie breathing/meditating stuff anymore, they've all reduced it down to the flow between more-or-less demanding postures.

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