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Times have changed: women no longer have enough men to pull this off (the men they could convince just turned 70). They'll no longer commit industrial-scale mass suicide just because they started handing out white feathers like they would 100 years ago- arguably the turning point for that was Vietnam- but it's true for most other countries even without that.
Now, there's still the opportunity for gynosupremacists (as in, feminists) to try and impose this on their own, since you don't need as many men to pull this off these days now that you have computers to do it for you.
The elephant in the room about the SR is that it did in fact raise the clearing 'price' for marriage. That's why you have the weird distribution where half of divorces come from people already on their second marriage (assuming 50% of marriages end in divorce, but 75% of first marriages do not). That's why you had the massive spike in the 70s where people who [20 years later] had no business being married, and were never going to get along with anyone, split up.
The hedonic treadmill model also works for risk (both are fundamentally selfish and as such a prime driver of anti-social behaviors), so no.
Men had to evolve in 1900-1930 with technology taking away their primary biological niche. Sex got a lot more expensive as a result (markets distorted in the 50s but corrected themselves by the 80s).
Now that technology has done a similar thing to women, perhaps they need to evolve too. Women need to fix this problem for themselves, and step 1 is realizing that it is a problem in the first place. (This probably won't happen while Boomers are still alive, but obsolescence tends to lead social change by some time, and it takes longer the older the mean decision-maker is.)
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