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Culture War Roundup for the week of October 27, 2025

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Any real fight, even with no weapons, is a fight for your life. That doesn't mean that all physical violence is a fight like that though, but the attacker needs to signal somehow that real bodily harm is not the intention. For example a catfight with slapping, nail scratching, and biting is unlikely to be truly dangerous, but getting ganged up on or attacked out of the blue is extremely dangerous.

it was standard that two cowboys would get into a fistfight while wearing guns on their hips

Showing you have a weapon conspicuously and not using it is a good signal of your intentions.

Instead we've replaced traditional ethics with a feminized world where all physical contact is treated as a deadly threat

This definitely isn't true. Under the law physical contact doesn't automatically justify self defense, and there are many cases where a physical attack was made and the retaliation was not found to be self defense in court.

No normal male got to adulthood without getting into a scrap

I'm smashing the doubt button extremely hard.

Boys getting into fights in school has seen an unprecedented decline in the past thirty years

I don't believe there is actual evidence that getting into fights leads to better outcomes for the kids in any measurable way, while there is strong evidence it leads to troublesome discussions, accidental injuries, and scrutiny. So there's all the incentive to push people not to cause problems.

I don't believe there is actual evidence that getting into fights leads to better outcomes for the kids in any measurable way,

gestures broadly The proof of the pudding is in the eating. We're in the middle of a society wide experiment in kids not getting into fights, and we sit on the internet and bemoan the effeminacy of our world.

while there is strong evidence it leads to troublesome discussions, accidental injuries, and scrutiny. So there's all the incentive to push people not to cause problems.

What discussions, what scrutiny? As for accidental injuries, you can't live your life never taking a risk of anything.