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PaperclipPerfector  1mo ago (text post)   2483 thread views

Small-Scale Question Sunday for November 2, 2025

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For men: in a relationship, do you ask about your partner's body count? Or perhaps you don't ask about it, but ask certain other questions like attitudes about casual sex? Does asking about it actually help with the preoccupation at all? How do you get over it?

It's called "retroactive jealousy"

I have another word for it. "Standards." Most women do not hold themselves to a high standard, and society has done its best to lower standards for female behavior, but you can choose to keep your standards high and then retroactive jealousy becomes disgust at disgusting behavior.

So if I can barely remember most of the times I had sex, your girl probably is the same.

Men and women are not the same, they have never been the same, they will never be the same. I don't understand why you would make this assumption, because it seems like wishful thinking. In fact, I would assume the opposite. The reason why you forget is because you are a man, and your reproductive strategy is different than women. I would assume women, who can only reproduce with one man at a time, would be different. I would expect them to get attached, and to think about their partners, and to remember. You even said yourself that it's the orgasm that makes you forget. You then apply this to women, which, LOL. LMAO, even.

So to be clear your stance here is that my statement of "i assume most people don't remember the majority of the sex they've had very well, if at all" is untrue when applied to women, and is in fact the opposite?

So you're saying that women have near-autobiographical memory of every time they've had sex?

I would assume that your experience as a man would be representative of men, and given the differing reproductive strategies of the sexes, it's more likely to be the opposite than the same.

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