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I don't now what to tell you, dawg.
Women surpassed men in college enrollment sometime in the 80's.
Since then they've racked up more student debt than the men.
Which isn't surprising because they choose degrees that pay less.
And once they've graduated they have far heightened standards for potential mates.
So we have multiple pressures against women settling down with a 'good' man all stemming from the same place.
Which ends with them hitting middle age and lamenting the lack of options.
In sum, many women spend four years or so getting a degree they'll barely use, taking on debt they won't pay back anytime soon, have their personal standards raised too high to accept a partner, and get VERY VERY upset when life doesn't turn out the way they wanted on the back end of that.
And all of that might be not be notable if it weren't for the fact that the women themselves have just become less content with their status. What does it mean when you give a group of people MORE concessions and they express greater displeasure?
Good luck finding an upside in all that. I don't even have to bring up the TFR issue to make this point, but the correlation obviously exists. Hard to see how this has contributed to human flourishing.
At some point the critics look like they have a real, correct argument.
Make whatever value judgment of the situation you like, the stats say what they say, and it supports the view that sending women to college en masse has made them LESS likely to end up satisfied with their life than otherwise.
I don't find these driveby attempts at derision bothersome at all, but I do find the complete inability to engage with the accurate observation of the facts on the ground to be... suspicious.
The "becoming less content with their status" thing starts a long downtrend from 2007... the year the iPhone was released.
I don't want to say it's overexposure to social media and suddenly being able to compare yourself to millions of other women, but it might be.
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