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Revealed preferences. Fundamentally, the problem just sounds like she loves $(CITY) more than she loves you, and that it sounds like you’re more into her than she is into you.
Conversely, it does not sound like she’s as terrified of losing you as you are of her. She doesn’t sound as invested about spending the rest of her life with you as you are about her.
While not necessarily fair or your fault, your PTSD likely only gives her the ick, as does you spinning your wheels this hard trying to forge a stronger level of proximity and commitment. Usually pining for a stronger level of a commitment is the feminine role in a relationship. Suggesting couples counseling would just deepen the ick. You playing whack-a-mole with her city-living concerns only creates more holes and moles. You pushing harder on your relationship merely pushes her away.
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