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Employees hate it when their managers do that too. You give them a reason to stick around- some sort of buy-in- and they're more likely to stick around even though the wage might be lower. They might even do those special intangible things that further your goals just because they like you.
Companies spend a great deal on patronage and branding because, among other reasons, it favors the goals of the employee that asked for it. I hesitate to say "potentialfag" because it's stupid, but why else do people stay in relationships other than the promise that it might get better or stay the same? Evaluating a company is hard, since it's incorporeal and its logo means nothing to what the potential of working there could get you, but you can be attracted to what it is and what it does- SpaceX employees obviously feel their organization is spectacularly muscular.
I don't see many movies for men based around how great it is to serve garbage managers/companies, but stories that involve characters eventually surpassing them (the "boyboss" trope, if you will) are perennial.
That said, job insecurity is still a real thing; in this case, "if you're not interested in my ability to do the job, whose minimum wage is very low yet competition is very high (thanks, PornHub), I'm going to find someone else who is so the relationship actually has some grounds/stability/stakes to exist in the first place" seems pretty natural to me.
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womenwho actively want to provide free laborsexwithout this are a rounding error, as it's counter to biologically-imposed limitations and instinct doesn't fully account for UBIsIUDs. Sorry, asexuals.]More options
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