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Not so useful in the wee hours of the morning, but you can dunk your head in a bucket of ice water for 15 or more seconds and pretty much stymie such attacks. This is the dive reflex, which stimulates the vagus nerve. My youngest son used to have concerning anxiety right before going to elementary school, and he'd spend minutes in the toilet, sometimes making his classmates who were waiting for him late. I'd rig up a tub of ice water for him to dunk his face in, and he'd calm down, dry off, and be fine. Although my wife thought this was coddling it worked, and eventually he didn't need it.
Problem is it will also probably wake you up pretty effectively, and that may not be what you want at 5:30 a.m.
Wait, she thought shoving a kid head first into ice-cold water counted as coddling him? Is that a Japanese thing?
"You gotta stop waterboarding the kids, George, you'll spoil them rotten!"
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Ha. I may have inadvertently painted a more violent picture than the reality. There was no head shoving. I placed bowl on table and bid him dunk his head, which he did on his own. After a few weeks of doing this almost every day my wife's worry was that I was providing an emotional crutch where it would be better to simply power through on force of will alone. Which, of course is the right attitude. Thankfully he was able to eventually realize that what was happening to him was within his own control and the ice water bowl was no longer needed.
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