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Thank you for sharing and for the encouragement. I do have social anxiety as well actually, I hadn't considered whether or not I'm on the spectrum until now, although if good coordination removes you from that I guess I wouldn't be. I definitely sympathize with keeping the peace among sensitive friends!
I ended up deleting my other post and shortening it because I thought it was too long but I appreciate you reading through it. Interesting suggestion regarding the fan for sleeping, perhaps I will try that. I bought this book that I have yet to read called the effortless sleep method that seems promising, we'll see what it says. My main issue with the abuse thought is that I basically hallucinated an angry stranger with context/framing that I shouldn't really have been able to know as a 3 year old, but also the framing wasn't too outrageous/overtly sexual, so who knows if I somehow overheard something in media accidentally, felt some kind of shame about what I was doing subconsciously, that got incorporated into a hallucination, that's the only nice explanation I can think of. But it is reassuring that at least the masturbation itself isn't too weird at that age.
Arright, I'm going to try and stick with spectrum specific stuff here and just say that it's probably worth looking into ASD regardless but generally speaking, the cerebellum is underdeveloped in ASD folks, leading to characteristic clumsiness/physical awkwardness/gawkiness. Hope the book gives you some good stuff on getting better sleep and I'd be interested to hear what you've learned from it. WRT sleep and autism specifically, basically my understanding is that the autistic brain has a smaller reservoir for emotional stimulation while also processing emotions more slowly, and one of the ways that this manifests is in an active resting network and generally more frequent and vivid dreams compared to neurotypicals.
Interesting regarding the smaller reservoir for emotional stimulation, and more active resting network. I haven't seen it put in those words, "active resting network" before. That seems to be similar to what I experience, in that my thoughts just don't shut down even when I want to rest. Feels like I'm calculating (to what end I don't know) the previous mundane events of the day sometimes, not even in a stressed way but in a doing-arithmetic mechanical sort of way, but I can't shut it off. Unless sometimes like I said, if I do everything else right while also managing to not overthink sleep hygiene. Not sure if that's really emotional processing going on though, more just an instinctive reluctance to let go of active thinking, but perhaps processed by the cerebellum too, idk?
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