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Culture War Roundup for the week of December 15, 2025

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One of the main themes, I think, would be that Married Woman True Crime pathology is an extreme form of the same pattern in trash romance novels; the danger is the attraction.

I assume that women like True Crime for the same reason that men like fantasising about how we'd win a fight. Some profound evolutionary instinct to prepare for violence. But whereas men fantasise about how to confront violence, women fantasise about how to escape it.

My sister reads books about terrorists. She's not doing it because she has the hots for Osama Bin Laden.

Oh, are you certain about that?

Whatever you say, Fed

What does that have to do with my sister's predeliction for books about terrorists or the popularity of true crime podcasts?

It was a humorous juxtaposition. You stated "My sister reads about terrorists. She's not doing it because she has the hots for Osama Bin Lade." I then shared a link which documented an FBI translator who fell in love with an ISIS terrorist.

It's funny because it provides an example that counters your assertion, but in an over the top and outlandish way. My jocular statement "whatever you say, Fed" was a tacit confirmation that your point is valid and I agree with it, but wrapped in "Very online" verbiage.

Is your argument that women instinctively escape from violent men, presumably into the embrace of nonviolent men? Because I've never seen evidence of this.

I'm not talking about relationships or anything like that. I'm talking about a woman thinking about, say, a burglar entering her house or a mugger accosting her on the street. Men fantasise about how they would fight off the assailant in those situations, women fantasise (arguably more realistically) how they would escape him.

You seem to be talking about why women enter into relationships with (more or less) violent men, which is a completely different context and timescale.