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I would do it if I were you, IF AND ONLY IF I were ok with ending up with the kid at the end of the game.
Leave aside the fact that I might not be able to completely avoid child support obligations legally. Morally, that is at some level my child, even if my expected social relationship to him is spuncle rather than father. I think I would be ok with a functional, happy lesbian couple raising my child. But in the event of their death or disability, maybe even in the event of their divorce, I would want and expect the kid to come live with me. Legally, this would be a matter of making succession plans clear with the mothers: I am first in line to receive the kid, not your mother or your sister, if you both die or become unable to care for the child he comes to the FiveHour farmstead. Morally, this would be a matter of talking to Mrs. FiveHour. Functionally: do I think my kids with the woman in question would be good kids? I couldn't imagine having kids with a dumb woman, whether tab A and slot B are involved directly or not.
So while on net I agree with @Tintin that it's a mitzvah to do this, I don't think you should unless you're ready to be a bit of a Durov or Musk. How will your existing wife and kids feel about you getting a spare bastard back unexpectedly? How would inheritance work among your kids?
FWIW, Mrs FiveHour and I had the reverse conversation recently: I joked that her lesbian best friend would be my first pick to take our kids in the event of our deaths, as she is a) responsible and well off, b) childless, c) hopelessly unrequitedly in love with Mrs FiveHour since college and would love the children maternally as the remnant of her friend, d) likely to try to Love in the Time of Cholera vulture my wife at my funeral if I die first anyway.
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