The Wednesday Wellness threads are meant to encourage users to ask for and provide advice and motivation to improve their lives. It isn't intended as a 'containment thread' and any content which could go here could instead be posted in its own thread. You could post:
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Requests for advice and / or encouragement. On basically any topic and for any scale of problem.
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Advice. This can be in response to a request for advice or just something that you think could be generally useful for many people here.
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Encouragement. Probably best directed at specific users, but if you feel like just encouraging people in general I don't think anyone is going to object. I don't think I really need to say this, but just to be clear; encouragement should have a generally positive tone and not shame people (if people feel that shame might be an effective tool for motivating people, please discuss this so we can form a group consensus on how to use it rather than just trying it).
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I've been going through something similar with my father, though it sounds like we have a very different relationship. My father had a heart attack over the summer, and hasn't been able to walk properly or live independently since for a variety of reasons. He just turned 80, and I've had to learn to live with the fact that he's on his way out, and support my mother and him in the process.
And I think the biggest thing that gets me through it is thinking of myself as a dutiful son, as doing a good thing by caring for my father. While I love my sister, at times this does extend to thinking (quietly to myself) that I'm doing a better job at being a good kid than my sister is. Which I would never say to her, but there's nothing wrong with taking pride in your good deeds.
Your father is going to die. My father is going to die. We have duties as sons, and discharging them well is a good thing to do, and we can take pride in that. We can face the funerals knowing we did everything we should do.
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