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I think there exist plenty of women who would not like it if their partner consumed and masturbated to porn but have little issue with its existence as a whole, particularly when used by single people or in relationships where its use is agreed to. Plenty of women I know have articulated this in addition to concerns about giving men a confused view of sex. It is not hypocritical to support the existence of porn and not want it to be misused in a partnered relationship with expectations of sexual exclusivity. Nor do I think it's a women-only phenomenon: plenty of men don't want their girlfriends looking at porn for similar reasons despite having used it in their past or sharing similar hesitation. I think the only problematic view would be expecting your partner to refuse it while continuing to use it yourself.
Partnered relationships with expectations of sexual exclusivity? What, I can't use my right hand by myself in a relationship?
It is hypocrisy, or at least gross overreach. Most of the women I've known IRL have been neutral to positive towards porn, but the ones who found it objectionable would find it even more objectionable if their boyfriends demanded they stop using their vibrators and reading smut in their spare time. Often they go as far as to claim that smut isn't the same as a porno, since one is coarse and visual, and the other is in the rarefied realms of imagination.
Sure, you can. I would just expect you to be on the same page with your partner about it, in terms of what counts as cheating etc. Hence my use of the term "expectations." It's up to the expectations that you and your partner would set. There is no such thing as an overreach if you both agree to it. I don't see any problem with you similarly hoping your partner stop reading smut.
I won't deny that hypocrites exist, but I've known plenty of women are fairly principled about it. Just depends on the circles, I suppose. To be fair, I am sympathetic to the idea that smut is qualitatively different than video porn on a psychological level, but they're close enough we can treat them the same socially.
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