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Wellness Wednesday for February 4, 2026

The Wednesday Wellness threads are meant to encourage users to ask for and provide advice and motivation to improve their lives. It isn't intended as a 'containment thread' and any content which could go here could instead be posted in its own thread. You could post:

  • Requests for advice and / or encouragement. On basically any topic and for any scale of problem.

  • Updates to let us know how you are doing. This provides valuable feedback on past advice / encouragement and will hopefully make people feel a little more motivated to follow through. If you want to be reminded to post your update, see the post titled 'update reminders', below.

  • Advice. This can be in response to a request for advice or just something that you think could be generally useful for many people here.

  • Encouragement. Probably best directed at specific users, but if you feel like just encouraging people in general I don't think anyone is going to object. I don't think I really need to say this, but just to be clear; encouragement should have a generally positive tone and not shame people (if people feel that shame might be an effective tool for motivating people, please discuss this so we can form a group consensus on how to use it rather than just trying it).

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New year's resolutions check-in (nice that I can actually start crossing off resolutions I've completed):

  • Went to the gym three times last week, again yesterday evening, planning to go at lunchtime today. Can deadlift 1.78x my bodyweight for 4 reps, squat .93x for 10 reps and bench press .75x for 9 reps.
  • Managed to go the entirety of January without consuming any alcohol, fast food or fizzy drinks, though I was back at it like a demon from midnight on February 1st.
  • Have not consumed any pornography since waking up on January 1st.
  • Have completed 7/11 modules in the SQL course.
  • Practised guitar for roughly an hour every day in January.

How goes it, @thejdizzler and @oats_son?

  • I don't know if it's the diet or what, but lifting weights is suffering. I HATE doing squats and don't look forward to them at all. Squatting to parallel made them a lot harder and it feels like I am working the hell out of my abs to get back up, and towards the end of the sets it feels like I'm rounding my upper back to not use abs as much. I only managed to work out once last week and I haven't worked out yet this week. However, I have done cardio 3 days in a row. I discovered that apparently if you can't jog slowly without your heart rate climbing up past 180, the stupid reddit zone 2 cardio advice isn't for you.
  • Still going strong on the diet. I ate a like, 600 calorie donut yesterday because the damn sales guy brought in donuts and one looked really good and it WASN'T really good. I ended up staying to the diet anyway, but I was pretty hungry going to bed last night. I weighed either 180.1 lbs or 180.8 lbs this morning, I don't remember. I finally ran out of potato chips and oatmeal, so now I'm gonna eat rice for a while. Need more chicken tho.
  • I could probably finish the Anki backlog tonight, if I focused for a while. I think there's like 100 card reviews left now. Still reading every day but it's slowed down a little. I got a bit busy at work, which hurts my reading.
  • I finished Undead Settlement after beating some tree boss, I guess. I almost missed the pyromancer guy.
  • No tennis yet. Dude, the tennis club is outrageous. It's $200 a year, but you don't get free court time or anything with it, you just get cheaper court rates, from like $47 per hour as a nonmember to between $31 and $37. If I just show up, would there be anyone to play with? How the hell do you start to play tennis? And why is renting a lane at a range to shoot guns cheaper? What?

There's a whiskey tasting tonight at a bar for "Whiskey and Wings Wednesday". Is that something you can go to by yourself? In a couple weeks there's trivia night at the local brewpub, pretty sure you can go to something like that by yourself...

Is that something you can go to by yourself?

Absolutely, do it bro. Impress some girl with your spice tolerance.

I feel confident in saying that were it not for your and @TowardsPanna's encouragement, I would not have attended this. Going to unknown social events is not in my comfort zone. I also had eaten so many calories at lunch between pizza and donuts that the safer bet would have been staying home and eating fruit.

I'm still pretty drunk, admittedly, but it's still fresh in my memory, so I'll write about it.

The whiskey flight was "Bardstown" whiskey. Rye, blended, wheated, bourbon.

  • It was a little more than a mile away. I moved to this neighborhood recently, so I was not aware of how dangerous the walk would be; it didn't seem to be very dangerous. I only saw a handful of people. I live in a rural area, though. I walked because I wasn't sure how much alcohol it would be, in the end. It turned out to be a very good decision; I was in no state to drive.
  • People at the bar will be friendly to you. I asked about "Wings and Whiskey Wednesday" and they were looking at me, smiling, explaining that the only thing they were ordering was the wings menu, pointing at it.
  • People at the bar will be friendly to you, Part 2: Both the middle-aged person next to you and the bartender will be trying to make conversation with you. The actual topic doesn't matter much, but the bartender knows a lot about whiskey, so he'll ask you what you think of each one. Everyone perceives whiskey differently, so just say whatever you think.
  • The blended whiskey was the most flavorful and the most enigmatic. Despite tasting it the most and trying to come up with an answer the most, I couldn't tell you what it tasted like. I could just tell you that it's the strongest tasting whiskey of the four that he poured. When I told him I couldn't tell him what I tasted, he suggested that he tasted cinnamon. I tried it again and found that that taste was probably present. Either way, it was my favorite whiskey. As far as I know; the answer doesn't matter, as long as you just give an answer at all. A couple people down the bar got a flight as well, and kept asking me about how it was going.
  • The people next to you can talk about anything. Try to pay attention to what they're saying. A fat guy sat next to me and seemed to talk about local things, especially local depressing things like kids dying or something. The women (in their 50s, by the way, I don't think anyone besides me was below their 30s, but I will report again on trivia night) talked about a lot of stuff. Including pickleball, in which I input my questions about tennis and tennis club prices.
  • There was a guy that showed up that worked at a local restaurant that talked up the restaurant and told me the name of a band that would play there in June. He was fun, though I didn't talk to him that much. Expect to learn more about the town.....
  • The male bartender didn't like stouts. If he did, I would have ordered another drink, along with wings. As it was, I just thanked him for not liking stouts and confessed I would have gotten even drunker if he had liked stouts, and I broke a 20 and tipped another 4 dollars in addition to the 3 I had already tipped. I don't know... I asked if he had any stouts, and he said he just had Black and Tan, and at that point I lost inclination to order any additional alcohol AND ALSO any wings, which I was sure I would order upon coming in.
  • I didn't really talk to the female bartender much, but she was friendly. She apologized for making me wait a century to get more water (with 4 whiskeys, you needed a lot of water), and I loudly exclaimed (because I was drunk) that I forgot all about it, and she laughed. I remember making other comments that made her laugh, but it's her job to be friendly, you know.
  • I got drunk. I'd guess I drank a little more than 2 ounces per drink, and it was 4 drinks for $25. Don't order a flight of whiskeys if you don't want to get drunk. Bourbon was smooth, wheated was tasty like syrup, rye was spicy, but the blended Bardstown whiskey was the spiciest of all; I tried it so many times trying to figure out what it tasted like that it became my favorite drink, somehow. I like drinks that punch me in the face. I figured that out a couple years ago when I tried a Lagavulin 8 Year and found that it was smokey, unlike any other whiskey I'd ever tried.
  • I didn't get incapacitatingly drunk. The goodbyes were easy and the male bartender laughed at my parting cuteness. I ran most of the way home. I like running fast, and playing Tarkov makes me feel cool and like I should run through town, pretending like I'm running through a war-torn Ukraine, taking in all the shops and houses while I was walking. I figure that I couldn't run like that if I was extremely drunk.

Overall, don't expect it to be difficult to make conversation. Everyone is predispositioned to want to talk to you, and they generally enjoy new faces. You don't need good conversational skills; in total, I was able to respond with mostly trivial empathetic responses, but otherwise, I talked about drinking, about certain local restaurants, about homeless people (one woman defended the homeless, but I was just happy to listen because I was quite drunk), about tennis, and about the drinking habits and experiences of family members who had gone on pub crawls.

On the other hand, if you don't want to get drunk, you should order a soda or something. Most people there had previously experienced trying to quit alcohol, and they would respect you for not drinking, in my opinion. My family is generally the same way; when I told these high-dollar stout drinkers that my brother didn't drink, they said "good!" Do not be ashamed of wanting to avoid alcohol.

Hopefully, there are more young people at the trivia night. I said "damn, man, I can't do this every week" to which the bartender replied "there will be a different brand next week". It strikes me as pretty easy to become an alcoholic. When I got home and started writing this, I cracked open a Leinenkugel's Summer Shandy, my overall favorite beer. My friends live all around the country, but none of them have ever seen or heard of a Leinenkugel's Summer Shandy. Is it truly a nationwide beer? Maybe not. Anyway, I will update you. Thanks for making me less boring in an unsustainable kind of way.