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Without wanting to get too biographical, I've received suggestions like that before as well.
Fortunately a principle that's been helpful for me is to never make major decisions while in a state of despair, depression, or self-loathing. I remember advice I received once from a friend who'd been in the military - as much as possible, make decisions from a position of strength, not weakness.
One last heuristic I use when taking advice from another people is to ask myself, "Does this person want me to be strong?" There's a bit of unpacking to do there around what 'strong' means, but the point of the question is to look at whether this person is generally trying to move me in the direction of being collected, confident, at peace, empowered, etc., or whether they're trying to move me in the direction of being anxious, neurotic, dependent on others, etc.
It's not necessarily a red flag if someone encourages me to face a dark feeling, since vulnerability is something we all need to face sometimes. But the direction matters, and if someone is trying to make that vulnerability pathological, that is probably a sign that they're not going to make me stronger or happier.
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