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This is probably occasionally the case, but this has happened when I’m wearing a hoodie, jeans and trainers from the men’s section, no makeup, and generally put 0 effort in presenting as anything, with people from demographics that are not known for their LGBT friendliness (e.g. middle aged Eastern European men). And it doesn’t explain why a security guard or a passerby would make a big scene trying to redirect me to the other bathroom.
But in any case, this doesn’t mesh with the GC worldview. Either the average person is very trans friendly, or trans people can pass and be perceived as the opposite sex.
I've never disputed the existence of androgynous people, and nor has any gender-critical person I've met. Even people who aren't trans sometimes get mistaken for being members of the opposite sex (i.e. butch lesbians). I'm just saying that such people are the exception rather than the rule, and that most people are very obviously of one sex or the other. I would imagine that if I spent a lot of time in trans spaces, I would far more frequently see people complain about being "misgendered" or "clocked" or failing to pass than I would see the opposite (people celebrating how successfully they pass).
I have a decent number of trans friends and that’s not the case at all. Occasionally a funny story around passing is shared, but most of the time nobody really brings up the topic. The trans issues that come up often are problems related to healthcare (e.g. finding a good endocrinologist), or family members not accepting them. Not getting called “miss” instead of “sir” (or vice versa) when ordering takeaway.
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In my experience middle-aged Eastern European men have a severely degraded man-dar partially as a consequence of lack of LGBT friendliness in the area. They call me "miss" from time to time when I'm presenting as nothing but male, on account of long hair.
It would make sense when compared with all the old-timey stories of men crossdressing as women and women crossdressing as men and that being enough to fool most people, in the world where gender presentation is hard-coded otherwise.
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