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The days of "married at eighteen" for women were when there was no other career path, if I can put it like that. Lower-class women would work, and if servants, then marriage was far in the future (if at all). Which is not to say no working class women got married, of course they did, but work was as likely to be part of their married lives as pure domesticity. It might be "working as a lodging keeper with your spouse and family", but there wasn't the same division between "the man will earn all the money and the woman will be the angel in the home".
Middle to upper class women would be running households, and except for the exceptional few, not going to college like their brothers. Work was not for them, unless a drastic downturn in family fortunes meant the necessity to find work as a governess or paid companion or the likes. EDIT: And in that situation, 19 year old girl marries 30 year old man was more likely since the man, of course, had to make his way in the world before being ready to support a wife and family while the woman just had to wait to be plucked like a blossom.
Reading a lot of 19th to even early 20th century fiction, I am very struck by "here's a young woman who is pretty much waiting around at home for a man to marry her". This is different nowadays. So the days of "getting married at 16 to your 21-25 year old beau" are mostly over (not completely gone, but attitudes are very different now).
I don't object to 19 year olds getting married, but let's be practical here: at that age, they're probably still going to be living with parents or in-laws or some arrangement like that, rather than moving into their own house with baby. I really would prefer "married at 19 and then baby" to the current situation we see so much of; it's not your friends who are likely to suffer in this situation, it's the people lower down the rungs of the ladder, and while the underclass has always existed and has always flouted social norms, having it become widely accepted and then widespread that "marriage isn't necessary; kids aren't necessary" is where we get into the entire vexed question of "what do women (and men) want?" of today, where there's neither the societal push for "marriage or disgrace" and yet the promised liberation and joy from cutting off all those branches we were sitting on has not, in fact, happened and people are still having drama around relationships, sex, children, marriage, and so forth.
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