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Culture War Roundup for the week of February 16, 2026

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There's a lot of gay tops that really like the idea of breeding someone, but actual ramifications of a working reproductive system squick them the fuck out

Are those ramifications like "if you think about it that's not really a man, because by virtue of breeding it's evidently a woman, and women are squicky", or more like "the sex part sounds hot but the last thing I want is an actual baby, babies are squicky".

Sometimes, but more... with some warning about more explicit detail than you'd probably want to know:

Stuff like 'it's that time of the month' or 'there's no level of prep that will let you go that deep in this hole' or 'no you can't jerk off and then finger me safely' are kinda unavoidable parts about how that whole thing works. You'd think it wouldn't be that gross compared to what prepping for anal sex is like, but if you've been screwing guys for years surprise blood is something that's a lot more of a danger sign where a straight dude might just need to evaluate if they're willing to earn their red wings. A lot of gay guys, top or bottom, put a lot of self-worth into their ability to get their partner aroused and to orgasm, and while the effects of testosterone on the clitoris can make this a little bit easier than with cis women, it's still really easy to get wrapped up in your own head about whether a trans man is actually enjoying things or just performing enjoying things. And if you're a top that likes to frot, it's an entirely different set of motions; if you're a 'top' that's a switch, well, best-case trans guys that want to top don't have the stamina or sensation feedback (yet, growth mindset) a cis guy would, and a number just don't want to top period.

Pregnancy concerns specifically get complicated. There's a lot of ways to avoid them pretty effectively, and some gay guys are under the (not entirely correct) impression that just being on testosterone is itself effective birth control. But you do see some who are really into the idea in fictional contexts and get grossed out because an IUD isn't perfect.

((And they tend to be polarizing for trans guys, where either it's something out of Alien as a fate-worse-than-death, or they get out of high school with an exact number of kids that they want. But I have met a few exceptions who like the idea but aren't sure they're ready for it, a la Daxhush, and there's a lot of cis woman who have similar divisions, so not sure how much of that's downstream of trans stuff as how much is downstream of the whole progressive culture.))

pls breed. no pregnant, only breed

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