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I've seen this as well personally. I think this comes down to a combination of point 4, and the meme of "fatherless behavior". These women probably have mistaken these tough guy, treat people like shit behaviors to being "manly" due to poor upbringing. The fact that many women choose these bad actors definitely doesn't help the situations.
Needless to say, my own father & mother are happily married and he is nothing like tate. So its not the case all women are gonna fall for that. They are screwed in the head and you wont be able to have a good relationship with them. And we should also be teaching girls what to be looking for in a man, beyond just "tall w/ money". A lot of people find a person sexually attractive, and then scan for other traits later. Not a good strategy.
We shouldn't be framing the current relationship issues as just a "your a lazy bum" problem. The fact that it exists across societies indicates a larger societal wide problem beyond just the behaviors of individuals.
See that's why I mentioned women with stable family backgrounds... for women who've never had a good relationship model growing up, it's not completely surprising that they repeat their trauma cycle. But why do smart, college educated women get manipulated by high school dropouts? IMO there's something to pin on nature here. These women view stability and direct communication as boring. They've lived a boring, predictable life, and now they crave life on the edge. They need the mystery, intensity and emotional distance to make the attraction work. Imagine you want adventure, would you go paragliding or golfing?
There could also be a generational issue, women in developed countries have never had more options in history. Overpopulation and rising living costs have generally made home ownership and childbearing almost unattainable for the middle class. Singlehood among women is celebrated in western culture. If family is assumed not to be on the cards anyway, women are free to explore the darker edges of their sexuality. I don't think this was nearly as common when our parents were growing up.
Hard agree with the last line though. I've been to a few big cities in India, and I was surprised to see similar dynamics play out over there. Which underscores my suspicion that this is just female nature in its raw, dysfunctional glory.
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