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Absolutely fucking not. This question is either a shit test, or a continuing assessment of the beta bux potential. I wish back when I had or was anything I had a lover who explicitly didn't give a damn about how my day went.
You know you've been spending too much time on the internet when your reaction to your hypothetical wife asking 'how was your day?' is 'Don't you manipulate me she-devil! You just want my money!'
No, many years ago I turned to the internet to understand why the consequences of honestly answering were so disastrous. I found the answers convincing.
Really? Which part of the internet told you to never tell your wife how your day was (or conversely, so get a woman who doesn't care)?
/r/theredpill, /r/purplepilldebate, and the tale of Henry of the Radicalizing the Romanceless fame.
I think one problem with relying on TRP for advice about women is that the community is subject to evaporative cooling. Any guys who end up happily married or in relationships aren't gonna stick around, so you're stuck in an echo chamber or men who have failed to coexist happily with the opposite sex.
The second is that intelligence isn't merely reversed stupidity. The Red Pill guys might be right that the mainstream is lying to you about women and relationships, but that doesn't mean they have good advice on how to exist in the world they describe. As someone said the other day on here, they have a correct description but an incorrect prescription. That's why they're so unhappy.
Surely it would make sense to take advice from the men who have succeeded, i.e. the happily married ones?
I can't see when the sub was created, but the years I'm talking about were near its beginnings.
I believe a man that his marriage is happy as much as I believe a hostage saying that his captors treat him excellently.
Why? Both men and women who are married report being happier than those who are unmarried. If the men are lying, are the women lying too? And if so, why the hell are they choosing to couple up and marry if it's making both sexes miserable?
If a vampire and a thrall both report being happier in this arrangement, are both lying? Why are they choosing this?
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