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I basically agree with this, but I would add the following:
If you are a man, it's pretty nice to have desirable women approaching you. And that's what typically happens if (1) you are a man; (2) you are in a high status position in an organization or institution; (3) you have regular contact with desirable women in the organization or institution; and (4) you are at least mediocre in terms of physical attractiveness.
The alternative to having desirable women approaching you is to seek them out yourself. Which consumes time and energy and more often than not leads to the unpleasant experience of being rejected.
I think that's not entirely true. Rather, women pivot back and forth between "helpless child" and "adult with agency" depending on what's convenient. A society that truly refused to treat women as adults with agency would put substantial limits on their autonomy. As a small example, it used to be common for girls' college dormitories to have curfews and to not permit male visitors after a certain hour.
We give them the appearance of agency and then step in when that gets them in trouble, much like we do for teens. And since women's status is so heavily based around appearances, for many that is all the agency they desire. And likewise since men's status is so tied up in saving women, a lot of men are more than happy to give them just enough agency to get in trouble that they need to be "saved" from...
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