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This kind of person is similar to the women with duck-lips and basketball-sized breast implants. They take something that is actually attractive to the other sex like bigger lips and bigger breasts, but then take it too far, but this makes them successful as social media personalities, because people who are inadequate in a way, tend to look for people who exaggerate in that area, not people who are normal.
I do think that for a guy who always does what a woman wants, is afraid of being negatively judged by women and thus does not approach them, is afraid to take up space, is afraid of saying things that women may disagree with, etc; can benefit from a higher level of misogyny where he starts believing that women are regularly full of it, stops caring as much about their opinions, their lack of comfort when an approach doesn't work out, isn't very afraid to speak his real thoughts and preferences, etc.
Or is that exactly the kind of person that can benefit from them, by applying 1/10th of what the streamer shows to his own life? I haven't seen the documentary, but did he really expect to have that exact same life, or just to get a result that is closer to that?
One would struggle to call baseball-sized implants going too far, except perhaps going too far in the other direction.
Ah yes, modified to be the right sport.
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