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Most chinese guys have absolutely 0 game and know it and therefore don't put themselves out there, the few who have game drown in pussy and are either snapped up off the market early if they're good men or play the field like absolute fuckboys, and the rest disappear into trial and error hell till about early 30s (based on my last info from about 2022). Maybe things are much more hellish now - Korea seems to be the reference point for how bad things can get for men regarding the status competition and expectation management- but I honestly think theres just standard oversampling of horrible dating stories endemic to all societies.
Though one obscure fact unspoken here is the absolute totalization of wechat and Line in Korea facilitated dating dynamics. I've had weird fucking experiences back in the 2010s with chinese women getting INSANELY distressed if I was using wechat and not responding to them immediately. The suspicion seemed to be that I was shaking for whores in my vicinity, which is a feature native to wechat so the assumption was not out of the question. Not sure if the new features like digital app payments on app have made sugardaddyfication even more instant. Maybe mainland posters, if any, can share dynamics I'm likely getting wrong here, but theres just something that was weird about using wechat as the single ur app to mediate all interactions.
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