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I mean, I read complaints on here about how women have it so easy in the dating market and that pretty much any woman can get sexual attention from pretty much any man.
Why is this? Because men are willing/desperate to stick their dick in a hole. So the male sex drive forces them to go to extremes to get that pussy, which means that providing she's not actively repugnant, Average Jane can have a hundred men competing to stick their dick in her. This then gives the Average Janes of the world way too high an opinion of their sexual marketplace value and they get too picky and fussy and won't even answer the desperate dating app cries of the Nice Guys.
Well, gentlemen, if you don't women to be spoiled, try turning the dial down so you are the ones more fussy about "if I don't get to stick my dick in someone soon, I'll literally die". Demand is outstripping supply in the sexual marketplace, and the dissatisfaction with women becoming more promiscuous to meet that demand is also the cri-de-coeur of the men out there. If you want women who are discriminating and only willing to date and eager to marry Nice Guys, then be more discriminating and stop dating (even for the single night it takes to get to stick your dick in her) the easy women.
Problem solved?
I don't mean to be mean, but I do get continually surprised - which is on me - how easy male sexuality is, based on comments elsewhere about "when I was 11/12/13 years old, I was fantasising about my hot teacher and jerking off to thoughts of the girls in my class". Just have the appropriate bits (be that for leg men, breast men, etc.) and they will reliably go "sproing!" and want to hit that. Then they are surprised and hurt when the objects of their sproinging do not want to reciprocate, and yet also angry that women will go around letting guys sproing them much too easily so they are not suitable wife-objects.
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