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I've had (non-trans-related) body image issues since puberty and it's been fucking horrible. If I didn't think therapy would be largely useless for me I'm pretty sure I could get a body dysmorphia diagnosis. (Useless compared to the replacement option of looksmaxxing, not in general-- I'd probably go if it was free, quick, and convenient, but as-is I have better ways to spent my time.) I completely understand, on an emotional level, why trans people are trans-- I just don't believe that wanting to be something is the same thing as being something. To my eternal furry chagrin, I am not a wolf on any level, including physical.
Given that experience, I very much hope that if (and hopefully when) I have children, I will be able to protect them from feeling similarly-- and by applying the pharmaceutical, behavioral, and social interventions that would have helped me, hope to dramatically reduce the internal factors that would contribute to the same thing. The final piece would be just, "not talking about it." The body-image issues in my family are generational, so I think combining the other interventions with "stop yelling meme" would cut them off at the knees. Applying that logic to transgenderism, I think that helping kids feel pride in their gender roles without being neurotic about conformity is half the puzzle, and easy, so figuring out how to counter whatever confounding factor exists between CSA and becoming non-cis is what I should be focusing to spare my kids from a frankly hellish fate. (Meaning: the dysphoria, not the non-cis-ness specifically... though as opposed to something like bigorexia I do think gender-related ailments are particularly pernicuous, and that post-treatment surveys significantly underestimate the amount of trans people telling themselves ego-preserving lies, A.K.A "coping.")
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