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That sounds correct, but I could not reproduce his full name on command.
I was bisexual beforehand, and not encouraged to befriend other patients. Support group dynamics were seen as unhealthy and to be avoided, and no residential programs existed in this world that I am aware of for that reason. So I do not know if this would have been successful for obligate homosexuals but that case was stated to be very rare- I don’t know if this was bubble effect or not.
I had homework that was a mix of standard therapy fair(journaling etc) and developing positive conceptions of myself as stereotypically masculine- bear in mind a positive stereotype of masculinity as conceived by conservative Christian clergy assisted by reactionary philosophers, there were no hooter’s trips etc. The most unusual thing I was asked to do was to admire myself nude and then in my underwear in the bathroom mirror, I think to appreciate the connection between my body and tendencies, but most of it was stuff like growing an appreciation for sports(this meant playing, not watching), doing stuff with my dad/grandad(fishing and working on cars were recommended), learning a new (tangible and masculine)hobby, and so on and so forth. I have no doubt that if I had been noticeably out of shape fixing that would have been considered part of the program, but I wasn’t and weightlifting wasn’t pushed- although undergoing physical discomfort and self discipline was, this mostly meant things like ‘not hitting the snooze button on your alarm’ and ‘walking around with rocks in your shoes all day’. There was actually a lot of attention paid to self image, I think I remember there being clear reasons for that in the book but not what they were. I was supposed to have straight male friends.
Interesting. This kinda supports my hypothesis that people who say homosexuality is a choice tend to be bisexual - it literally is when you’re attracted to both sexes!
At least they’re honest about it not being very effective on exclusive homosexuals, but calling that working conversion therapy feels like a stretch. It’s like having a program that can supposedly convert vegans into carnivores, but it actually just makes people who already eat meat stop eating vegetables.
In the LGBT community it’s already a meme that most bisexuals end up marrying someone of the opposite sex, even in progressive social settings. Add even the slightly bit of social pressure and encouragement to focus on your heterosexual attraction, and pretty much any “conversion therapy” would work.
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