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...yes, this seems simply correct to me; virtue is a primarily masculine phenomenon (after all, see the etymology). I notice how whenever the comparison between masculine and feminine values are drawn, here and elsewhere, the connection between feminine group behavior (generally, consensus-driven with covert competition) and success in feminine fields is left vague, while the connection between masculine group behavior (generally, hierarchical and camaraderie-driven) and success in masculine fields is obvious. I find it much more likely that many/most aspects of feminine psychology are side effects of domestication and/or adaptations to being the more vulnerable sex, rather than those things being evolutionarily selected for to enhance their fitness in their role.
Even with that notwithstanding, it's also pretty obvious to me that achievements in the masculine realm are simply more valuable than achievements in the feminine realm, at least in a modern economy. Having children definitely gives a sense of personal purpose and satisfaction, and the sentimental value of care work is not to be discounted, but the woman who is an exclusive homemaker is almost never regarded as highly as her husband so long as his work is more complex than semi-skilled labor, and for good reason; feminism was inevitable once the middle class became modal.
Now, what separates my perspective from @TitaniumButterfly et al. is that I believe that this is no excuse for "angel of the house"-style social norms. While some degree of patriarchal norms may be necessary for reasons of hypergamy/biological limitations, I see the development/expression of such virtues as strength, competence, and reason in women as a near unambiguous good, and the exercise of these traits in the public sphere as necessary in modern societies. Not necessarily for reasons of "independence" qua independence, but because they make the woman who develops them a better wife, mother, and person.
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