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Should’ve included in my post.
Here, voted by close to a million thirsty Chinese dudes on Hupu, a sports forum.
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My personal favorite
I agree with the vote mostly.
I was considering maybe 咬人猫 but being a cosplay dancer might skew things to a certain demographic, and obviously everything would be super curated and choreographed.
You’re more online than me :( honestly they all look the same after the makeup…
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Agreed on 2, 3 and 6. I have noticed that Chinese men seem to favour a more androgynous look.
I once dated a woman from Taiwan who would be considered slim by Irish standards. She told me that, back home, the beauty standard is for women to be exceptionally thin and flat-chested, to the point that her classmates in secondary school teased and mocked her for her comparatively big boobs. (Needless to say, I wasn't complaining.)
I talk with a friend when visiting Shanghai - do women here have ass and boobs? His answer was short - we call them the runways because a plane can land on them without shaking.
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I do think our men and women look more alike than Westerners. Gender swapping has been a common plot line in Chinese novels and shows, going back more than a thousand years. The story of Mulan for example dates to around 400 AD and involves a woman serving in the army masquerading as a man.
God knows how much I hate that trend. I don’t understand why some Chinese men like that candlestick woman look. They’re already borderline anorexic, and still somehow “fat”? Screw that.
Oh well, I guess selection pressure will take care of their obsession with small pelvises and lack of breast milk…
It was my favourite Disney movie as a child, and probably a major contributing factor to my taste in women.
During Covid I binge-watched Silicon Valley, an American sitcom featuring a minor character played by Jimmy O. Yang. I took a screenshot of him and sent it to my brother with the caption "I think my thing for Asian women is getting out of hand, because he's kind of cute?" Obviously I meant it in jest, but if Yang were to troon out I do think he'd have a much easier time passing than most white men.
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