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I already provided an obvious one that myself (and I'm sure millions of other teenage boys) went through: horny 14 year old me jerking it off to a whole lot of different adult women.
Suppose it were somehow made known to me that I could have sex with one of those women, I just have to say the word and she would allow me to have my way with her. The consensual qualifier is already satisfied, so that leaves the manipulation one. Would she be manipulating me by simply allowing the act to happen?
I don't see how this is a weird hypothetical at all. I may not have been exposed to any such situations myself, but given the amount of news articles where an adult woman was caught doing something like this, there are likely to have been far more unrecorded instances of this happening where an adult woman was not being manipulative, unless your definition of "manipulation" is far more expansive than mine.
Unless you're talking some scifi situation or some weird borderline case, this is very unlikely to happen without something being seriously messed up with the woman. Maybe "non-manipulative" is a bad word for that, but it will have bad motives and dynamics. And it would still be impossible for an outsider to distinguish a "good" case from the mountains of bad ones.
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