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Culture War Roundup for the week of April 20, 2026

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Some women will indeed need this advice because they are absolutely stupid when it comes to men. Latest 'divorce diaries' story in national newspaper had me going "what the hell": women marries guy despite red flags because she's getting older (into her thirties) and absolutely desperate to have a child. It does not work out. She has a miscarriage and can't get pregnant again, but stays even when he does things like tell her "I could kill you now".

She only eventually leaves when she finally does fear for her life.

I was terrified most of the time, but the drive in me to have a baby was enormous. I’d had a miscarriage and it actually took me over to the point where I wasn’t even thinking straight, and I was prepared to tolerate that.

To be honest with you, another part of me stayed was because he was so powerless over himself – I felt like he had a wiring issue that stopped him being able to prevent his violence. He just didn’t have that stop button that most people have. And that’s not an excuse for his bad behaviour, but he just didn’t have it.

But then, I wasn’t safe and that was the biggest thing I got wrong – leaving myself unsafe.

I don't blame men in particular, but with women this nuts out there, the safest advice is "stay away from men" for both men and women, because a man who gets stuck in a relationship with a crazy woman isn't doing any better.

Did this woman need that advice? She would have ignored it and probably would be right to do so, given her values.

She did need it, because her brain was too fried to make rational decisions. Maybe she would have gone ahead with the wrong decision anyway, but there would have been no doubt about "she was warned and did this herself".