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Probably an adversely selected sample given Aella's audience, and going by my past talent for ruining millennial "complain about your family" sessions by talking about actual bad stuff I'm among the "adversely selected", but as a millennial with Gen X parents, uh... The two of them were married four times (Mom twice, Dad thrice) and of those four, my father's third marriage is the only one that I would call successful (and even then, I have no idea why my second stepmom puts up with my father's shit). Of the six aunts and uncles on both sides, none are married to their original spouses, save for one who is merely separated (They'll likely never divorce, just live in separate trailers in the same park; they had dinner together during Easter.).
My parents' marriage and divorce were insane disasters that only could've gotten worse if my father had given up and walked away, someone actually got murdered, or mom had been clever enough to accuse him of "abusing" my sister and I in court instead of just painting him as an irresponsible alcoholic and lecturing us about her victimhood in their episodes of domestic violence (Yeah, she lost some fights, but she won some too, and after their divorce mom kept having problems with domestic violence while dad did not. She hit my sister and I, not him.). They split for good when I was six and their post-divorce war dragged on for 15 years after that.
If we're swapping anecdotes about domestic violence and old-fashioned marriage, my mother used to tell me about a cousin of hers (who had a brother who was a priest, so VERY RESPECTABLE FAMILY) and how he helped solve a problem of that kind.
Another relative was married to a guy (again, outwardly respectable) who used to beat her. The family strongly hinted that this was not acceptable. Guy didn't stop. So Cousin warned him off by beating him up so badly he had to spend a week in bed (and his wife made excuses to work for him) and told him if he ever laid a hand on his wife again, Cousin would kill him.
That stopped it.
I never understood why she stayed with the guy, but think about it: this would have been in the 50s or 60s. No divorce in Ireland. Marital separation considered very scandalous and disgraceful. Women were supposed to put up with it. Economically dependent on husband. So really the option of leaving him was not there.
This is also why "let's go back to making women economically dependent on men so they have to get married and have kids" is never going to fly again.
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