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"Smart" people are more wont to firmly believe wrong facts precisely because they in their smartness know better and so if they convinced themselves of the truth of a fact it becomes that much more difficult to persuade otherwise than a low brainpowef normie.
Similarly, women so convinced of the total vileness of men are that much more resistant to acknowledging their own foibles contributing to their failures in acretive mate selection, which kind of just lengthens the periods of misandrist seething in between shortening decision windows to determine that Politically Tolerable Good Guy checks the right boxes just to prove a point about how she has gotten One Of The Good Ones.
The baseline probably is "men are capable of being threats women need to be aware of" which is by itself a much better framing than "girlboss your way to making any man your bitch" but too many contradicting messages merge into a soup of mutually incompatible messages for women. He must love you for who you are, also youre perfect as a fatty fatass emulating lizzo, also be fucking real ozempic exists just fucking hse it. You are a queen whose body is a temple no man must violate but also billionaire bestiality rapefics are what you crave.
Thankfully IRL interactions do in fact break this mental pattern pretty hard and pretty fast since most men like most women are harmless normie dipshits who are simply stumbling through life and that ruins the mystique. The challenge is to persist social interactions past the mandatory go home and sleep phase, and there the seduction of the algorithm versus the real person becomes a real demon to manage. Im in favour of leaning into the parasocial ai companion torment nexus outcome and mandate that the ai daemons gently but firmly encourage their humans to become competent socially if only to reduce token burn on a strained chipset.
I mean in my experience it's more 'people are increasingly doing the vast majority of their dating through the apps' which is then triggering a bunch of stuff like what would classically be called the 'Alpha Widow' situation in which a lot of the female POVs I'm seeing are of women miscalibrating their own value in the dating sphere, getting played a few times and then settling into '#AllMen' and taking their frustrations out on the lower-tier guys who they're in a position of relative power over.
I'm also seeing a lot of people just kinda failing to launch on relationships and only starting to really pursue anything in their mid twenties and having no idea how the game is played. I'm married now to a woman who I met off the apps, but I had more than enough instances of 'awkward date with a girl with literally no experience who's treating it like a HR process' to know that's its own universe of frustration and nothing happening.
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